Just be yourself, is a high art in the company of other people. Who knows exactly who he is. And maybe some and I do not have the right syntax or some grammar mistakes.
You're right, who should be the judge? In my opinion, no judge can decide about other people because he is a completely different person.
One person stops thinking about what others think when the other one stops being judge, teacher or professor. Why can little children sing so freely, speak? Many adults or teenagers can not sing and act or speak just because they are shy? Or were you formerly blamed for not being perfect or obeying the guidelines? Every day, young people get hours of knowledge and experience what's good, what's right. Often your own thoughts are undesirable, you are forced to quietly follow the lessons. Sometimes everything is buried in ruins and ashes. Maybe they dare to return! Good content that will happen anyway