We continue with our little series of "reflections", you know that I am calling you [My Nonsense] this would be #2. This time I want to talk about the importance of loving and respecting ourselves. I hope you like it..

Life is the Garden with the deadliest thorns.

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Why do we all sometimes think that our happiness depends on someone else?

When we have someone whom we love and that person corresponds to our love, we automatically think that if they are not there we will not be able to move forward. I had the wrong idea of myself, I thought that without' that' person in my life I would not be able to go on, I would not be able to raise my face one more time, and no, I did not. We are the owners of our own world, it is good that some people are extremely important to you, but always keep in mind that no one in this world is going to love you as much as you could.

And it is interesting to touch on that subject, because loving ourselves is what many more people find difficult to achieve (I'm included). Horrible things go through our mind when we see our heart, we feel that true happiness is in what we can receive from that person or several people, but it is not so... true happiness is in loving yourself, in loving you and valuing you as you are. We cannot walk through life saying that we love here and there, before showing love, before opening your heart to give someone else a place; you must love yourself.

Our happiness does not depend on another person, you must be the center of your world. Don't let everything revolve around someone else. Whenever we wait and fail, it will hurt us more, putting so much hope on the table, completely ignoring yourself, putting something or someone above you.

True happiness does not lie in someone else, in a second or third, true happiness lies in you, in knowing how to understand and being who you want to be. Look at your heart, talk to yourself. You're afraid to show yourself to others, to know what they're going to say or point you out, but... why don't you look at yourself? Why just wait for someone else's opinion? I tell you that it has also cost me a lot, we live in a world of appearance, where society tells us how we should dress, act, express ourselves - and it is something sad, but if you let society envelop you and eat you, it will be your decision.

You and you alone have the tools to be unique, to be true, no matter how strong the social pressure, that shouldn't be an excuse to not feel good and happy, so don't let this whole piece of poop wrap you up and lock you in a world, which will be more difficult to get out and be really you.

I've always been afraid of "who will say,"the looks... when they point at you, and those things clearly hurt and hurt you a lot. But as I said before; we must not let that happen, we have to learn to accept ourselves as we are, perhaps for others we are strange, strange, but we have to care little or what? Will their opinions and criticism make you happy? Will they make you feel good and that you can be authentic or authentic?

On this path we will find many people who will simply hurt you, who will criticize you and point you out simply to hurt you, and yes, it is horrible but it is also not enough reason to send you away to die and that nobody loves you or, worse still, to end up despising yourself.

You are you, not what people say, not what your family or circle of friends say, only you know what really makes you happy, what really fills you, it doesn't matter if you like "x" type of things or what is something that you look weird before others. And don't feel bad either because sometimes you feel lonely, in the world we are billions of people, believe me that among so many people you will find someone who really understands how you feel, what you do and your way of being, that values that, but I return to the same thing as before: first you must love yourself and love yourself, that's the most important thing, learn to be you and not someone else, don't cling to what you really need someone.

Yes, maybe there are many people who can understand you, but tell me, how will a person understand you when even you don't? Are you sure when you say,"He understands me perfectly," that's really true? Or do you also not know why you feel that he or she understands you? It's weird, right? We must be the ones who understand each other and have our own identity and show ourselves to others, so that they can see your true self. Because you already know who you are, and so believe me, when that person who says he loves you and knows you perfectly, fails you, it will not hurt as much as now, because your identity and your way of being is not in what that person of you thinks of you.

How ugly it is when someone says "My happiness depends only on you, I can't go on if you're not here", I mean, how can you possibly say that? Don't you love yourself? Don't you love yourself? Don't you trust yourself and everything you can do? YOU have value, your life, your happiness means more than wanting or loving someone else. Love is important, love too, but it all starts with you.

You can accomplish many things, test yourself and you will see that if you can, how are you going to say you can't when you haven't even tried? And if you miss once, get up again. If you fall down again, get up again, and if you fall down again, keep insisting. We learn from mistakes, we learn from mistakes. Do not see error as something bad, veil as the opportunity to learn, so as not to fall again with the same stone. You have to look at your mistakes, accept them and make your weakness your greatest strength.

That's why I encourage you to value, love and love yourself. Don't demand anything from anyone but you. Don't expect anything from anyone but yourself. Take this path, the path of personal acceptance, where you truly manage to love and respect yourself. Try to accept your mistakes, no one is perfect and we all fail a few times, just don't crush yourself for having mistakes, as I told you; don't be afraid, look them in the face and learn from them.

You can look at life as a garden of roses, but remember that each and every one of those roses has thorns.