When you play chess, the most important piece is the Queen. She will go left and right, up and down, to protect the King. Sounds familiar? You got it right. She is an Alpha woman. That's how our society labeled her.
For a majority of people, she is intimidating. She knows what she wants and she stands her grounds. She is not afraid to get what she wants and she is a do-er. Her confidence is based on anything except her looks.
She has a great career and she doesn't anyone to support her financially. She has a lot of friends to rely on and she doesn’t need a man to support her emotionally. Don’t step back. She would like to go on a date in which the man offers to pay for the first date. It’s a sign of respect to her. And when things go well (that is if she decides to settle with you), she will give her financial contribution and she will ask things that normally a boyfriend/husband would provide emotionally.
Are you dating an Alpha woman? She is a keeper, don’t run away. She will laugh at your intelligent jokes, she will support you unconditionally. She will appreciate your gifts, flowers, and chocolates. She is not boring, she likes challenges.She won’t care if you are Alpha or Beta as long as you listen to her and give her own space. She wants a best friend, a lover and a life partner. But, what she wants more is equality.
Sometimes, she will need a shoulder to cry on. She will get lazy. You won’t need to tell her to move on or give solutions. She will get back to her feet soon, without you pushing her. She has insecurities and weaknesses and she will flawlessly embrace them. In the end, she is a woman and she is not afraid to accept that she is human and nobody is perfect. She will speak her mind, backed up with facts. She knows she is intelligent and successful but she will never ever try to emasculate you. She and you, you are a team and you are there for each other to reach your goals, be them professional or personal. She won’t bore you to death. She will initiate sex when you least expect it. More importantly, she won't ask you to change for her.
Is your friend an Alpha woman? Keep her close. She appreciates a good friendship, one that is true. One friendship that is not based on mutual superficial interests. She will accept that you have different opinions from her. Probably, she won’t cry when you tell her your problems. She listens quietly, shows empathy and in the end, she will suggest solutions and she will do anything in her power to help a good friend. Sometimes, she raises hell and heaven to help you. She will be straightforward with you and she will offer constructive criticism. She will support you in any aspect of your life. She goes by the saying of Madeline Allbright “There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women”. Afterall, it’s a man’s world.
Note: I am not talking about myself.
This is an excellent description of most of the women I know, and the ones who were my role models growing up. I think we need more female characters like these in TV shows, movies, and books.
I know a lot of Alpha women, too :) the best examples to follow. I am not even talking about their support and wisdom that they shared with me.
I am married to an Alpha female - she is a gem... long live Chika san!
hahahahahha say hi to her :)
I am not sure that equality in everything is something that men would be happy about. Men like to be of help, feel needed.
The most prosaic example from my life is that my husband never wants me to lift heavy things (believe me, I can, and I did it a lot earlier). I had to learn to allow him this courtesy of taking care of me. In this case my choice was to refuse the physical equality and admit that my husband is stronger than I am. Though he knows I could do it all by myself, he's grateful for the chance to take care of me.
Also, what I see around me is that strong women usually end up with weak men, and thus everybody is happy - a woman can be in her comfort zone and proceed to be strong in everything, the man is in his comfort zone and nothing bothers him. This is maybe the easies way of partnership, as their interests usually do not overlap and contradict.
To my mind in a relationship between a strong woman and a strong man there always would be needed compromises from both partners, because both partners have some vital principles and life standards, and it's merely impossible that those are identical for both of them, and sometimes the desires of one partner are in some conflict with the desires of other partner (e.g. both of them want to lead the relationship).
I'm a happy one to meet a partner as myself - the both of us both lead and compromise in our relationship, it's like hybrid alpha/beta person. :D
that's good news :) relationships are complicated.