十年生死两茫茫，当时只道是寻常！

今天继续关于“悲伤”和“遗忘”的话题！
有些人并不是冷漠，不是不心疼我们身边悲伤的朋友，只是提醒大家在你遗忘痛苦之前，你可能还会失去些什么？

  现实生活告诉我们，你不需要痛苦带来的扭曲的动力，快乐本身也是一个动力！人生中不是所有的回忆都是如此，有一些事情带来的，只是纯粹的痛苦，我们真的很想要忘记，可是即便是对于这样的事情，我还是要劝你记住悲伤，因为悲伤的心态会保护你！为什么这么说？

  有一种孩子，他们生来就患有先天性痛觉缺失，这些孩子他们感受不到肉体上的痛苦。所以他会把手伸进沸腾的水里而不知疼痛，他会不需要麻醉就可以接受手术，但是他们并没有因此成为刀枪不入的超人；相反的，他们会非常脆弱，绝大部分的这样的孩子活不到长大成年，因为他们感觉不到痛苦，他们不会去协调身体，回规避危险，他们也不会去评估风险！

   精神上的痛觉也是一样的。它会提醒你警惕，它会告诉你要逃跑，它会告诉你要躲避，像战争这样更大的悲伤更可怕，如果我们有一天都忘记了战争带给人们的苦痛，这是非常可怕的事情！这也就是悲伤的意义所在！

   悲伤是一种可以被品味的经历，没有那么惨，20世纪的爱情剧里的男主角阿里萨，当他得知他被诊断出的是相思病的时候，他很快乐，他享受那种煎熬，觉得这是伟大爱情。

   我渴望过，全心投入过，你原本是可以骄傲的面对他的，可是你现在把“遗忘”当做人生的解药，这个时候真正困扰你的东西甚至已经不是悲伤了，是你对悲伤的恐惧心理，对悲伤的抗拒是你面对悲伤的那种焦虑！

  你原本不必为自己的悲伤后悔，可是你现在就会恨自己怯懦。再者，如果我们连自己的悲伤都感受不到，我们又怎么面对其他人的悲伤，芸芸众生的悲伤！

  因为我自己失去了一生的挚爱好友，我觉得可惜，可我为什么还要去看泰坦尼克号，听《梁祝》，去读《半生缘》，去叹息？十年生死两茫茫，当时只道是寻常！

  比如说这个世界上还有孩子在流离失所，还有孩子被拐卖，还有孩子在饥荒中死去，还有孩子，从生下来就在逃亡的路上，这一切，人间的苦难妻离子散，背井离乡，国仇家恨，没有了悲伤，凭什么打动我呢？没有伤悲，就不会有慈悲。

  像我们这个社会上，不是没有那些“自我遗忘”的人啊，有多少人看着马路中间躺着的小孩子被车轧过去，没有人伸手去扶一把；有多少人听说中国的留学生在国外被人瞧不起替他感到难过，而是用键盘骂一句炫富，活该！这个时候我们替这些人感到开心吗？

   我们替他们感到悲哀啊，这时候甚至不是情绪上的悲伤，我是感觉到触及了道德和信仰的悲凉！著名的反乌托邦小说《美丽新世界》就是在描绘公元26世纪那个只有快乐没有悲伤的文明社会，那个社会里所有的人从一生下来就会用各种各样的方式保持一生快乐，都用最快乐的心情去工作，在那个社会为了消除你的负面情绪，他先消灭了所有的情感。爱情，家人，亲人都成为了历史。在那个社会，为了害怕你因思考而悲伤，又消灭了历史和艺术，所有的人不会产生任何的负面情绪，如果产生了空虚和寂寞感，这样立刻服用一种叫做“遗忘水”的药物去化解，忘掉一切烦恼！那个社会看上去是没有吵架斗殴，没有爱恨情仇，特别nice，特别美好，可是那个社会里的人他只有一种状态，他只是活着，而没有任何其他的生活体验。这样的生活，真的好吗？

  我们知道时间最后是一杯水，他会冲淡我们的悲伤，可是他不能也不该是一杯“遗忘之水”，我们最后选择的是跟自己的悲伤和解，而不是忘却，因为他曾经使我悲伤过的一切也是我最热爱过的一切。 

  这就是我对生活的价值观，你怎么看？

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Continue today on the topic of "sadness" and "forgetting"!
Some people are not indifferent, not friends who don't feel bad about the sadness around us. Just remind everyone that you may lose something before you forget the pain.

   Real life tells us that you don't need the twisting power of pain, and happiness itself is a driving force!  Not all memories in life are like this. There are some things that he brings. It is pure pain. We really want to forget, but even for such things, I still have to persuade you to remember sadness because  A sad mind will protect you!  Why do you say that?

   There is a child who is born with congenital analgesia, and these children do not feel physical pain.  So he will put his hand into the boiling water and don't know the pain. He will not need anesthesia to undergo surgery, but they have not become a superman who is invulnerable; on the contrary, they will be very vulnerable, and most of these children live.  Not growing up in adulthood, because they don't feel pain, they don't coordinate their bodies, they avoid dangers, and they don't assess risks!

    The mental pain is the same.  It will remind you to be vigilant. It will tell you to run away. It will tell you to avoid. The greater sadness like war is more terrible. If we forget the pain that war brings to people one day, this is a terrible thing.  !  This is the meaning of sadness!

    Sadness is an experience that can be tasted. It is not so bad. Alisa, the hero of the 20th century love drama, is very happy when he learns that he was diagnosed with lovesickness. He enjoys that kind of suffering.  I think this is a great love.

    I have longed for it, and I have devoted myself to it. You can face him with pride, but now you use "forgetting" as an antidote to life. What really troubles you at this time is not even sad, it is your sadness.  The fear, the resistance to sorrow is the kind of anxiety you face in grief!

   You don't have to regret your grief, but you will hate yourself now.  Moreover, if we can't even feel our own sorrow, how can we face the sorrow of other people and the sorrow of all beings!

   Because I have lost my life's loved ones, I feel a pity, why should I go to see the Titanic, listen to Liang Zhu, read "Half-Life", and sigh?  Ten years of life and death, it was known at the time!

   For example, there are still children in the world who are displaced, children are being trafficked, children are dying in famine, and children are born on the road to escape. All this, the suffering of the world is scattered, leaving home.  The country hate the family, no sorrow, why impress me?  Without sadness, there will be no compassion.

   In our society, there are not those who are "self-forgotten". How many people are watching the children lying in the middle of the road being rolled over by the car, no one is reaching out to help; how many people have heard of Chinese students?  I am sorry to be sorry for him in foreign countries, but use the keyboard to slap a show to show off the rich, deserve it!  Are we happy for these people at this time?

    We are saddened by them. At this time, it is not even emotional sorrow. I feel the sadness of touching morality and faith!  The famous dystopian novel "Beautiful New World" is depicting the civilized society of happiness and sorrow in the 26th century. All the people in that society will live in a variety of ways to keep their lives happy all the time.  Happy mood to work, in that society in order to eliminate your negative emotions, he first eliminated all emotions.  Love, family, and loved ones have all become history.  In that society, in order to fear that you are saddened by thinking, and that history and art are eliminated, all people will not produce any negative emotions. If there is a feeling of emptiness and loneliness, then immediately take a drug called "forgotten water".  To resolve, forget all the troubles!  The society seems to have no quarrels, no love and hate, especially nice, especially good, but the people in that society have only one state, he is just alive, and there is no other life experience.  Is this life really good?

   We know that at the end of the day is a glass of water, he will dilute our sorrow, but he can't and should not be a "water forgotten." We finally choose to reconcile with our own sadness, not forget, because he used to make me sad.  Everything I have ever loved is what I love the most.

   This is my value to life. What do you think?