For me, there is such sweet, sweet surrender and peace in the acceptance of the flaws, cracks, and failures within my essence. Far too often people judge themselves based upon what they perceive other people to possess, including emotional wellbeing. Traditional social media is not helping this matter at all.
My daughter suffered this misinterpreting the false projection of peoples lives and went through a period of dissatisfaction and a desire for "happiness" before understanding, as you say, we are ALL flawed in some fashion or another and some people need to camouflage this as a coping mechanism when confronting and embracing characteristics for what they are (normal) is the best way to overcome them in my experience.
I personally didn't see a calming in my heart and soul until I began to look openly and honestly about what is the best and worst about myself. There is no way to mitigate negatives without truly, unflinchingly scrutinizing them and how they impact you.
We're all just primates trying to find our way, let's be honest about it....lolol
It's funny that people take their reputation based on other people's perceptions and let it define them. When, in fact, it does not. It's thei character that defines them as theta the thing they have the ability to control themselves.
Looking inwardly and seeing the good that resides there will always see the bad or negative also. It's through bringing both into the light that one can find a better life, more comfort, self acceptance and courage.