Girls...
Your first mistake was loving a man who doesn't know what love really is.
It was giving them the power to ruin you, giving them enough strength to crush your soul with two fingers, and even worse, with a few words.
Your second mistake was telling them how much you need them, how your soul longed for something like this, how you can't imagine long nights without him.
Your third mistake was falling too fast for the idea of who he were, the soft hints of hate you missed in his words, the points of concern you should've noticed.
Your fourth mistake was loving him more and more. Loving each little bruise and bone, being convinced each scar had a story, even when it didn't connecting the freckles on their back into constellations, and secretly wishing this would last forever. That's a big "no" dear, you can't wish on stars that aren't bright. And he was always dark and dull. He looked at you with bored eyes, you were convinced that he will never be tired. That he held you careless, clumsy without care. Arms that never shook from holding on, too tight. You kissed with his motionless lips, slept with a body without a soul. But it's not your fault, it's easy to fall for an idea, especially when it's got two big brown eyes, and a heartbeat that sounds like your favorite song.
You'll occupy yourself with your friends to get rid of him. With junk foods to relieve the stress that was caused by him. With vices to remove him from your mind. And with bad habits to say that you're doing fine without him. You're willing to flirt with someone, or date someone just to prove that he's not worth it. You, your broken heart, your broken trust, and everything that destroys you.
Knowing that he's not yours anymore. That he's happy without you, that he had moved on while you're suffering, that he's more good looking than before, that he's more attractive now, that he's improving in his own life now that you're not a part of.
Letting go is the hardest part.
Knowing that the one who completed your life is the one who's destroying and breaking your heart into pieces now.
It's sad to know that you're jealous cause he really moved on. The fact that, he's far away better than you're together before. It takes time, it's a process. To move on, cause no one undergone that thing without crying, and doing stupid/crazy things.
Just focus on the present and not in your past with him. Don't settle for someone who doesn't give you nice things to say. Forever is a long time to make a small talk.
Stop seeing yourself as useless without him, because in the end of your journey there is still someone that will come to prove why that undeserving man who left and destroyed you didn't work out.
That no matter how hard you're going through, always remember that God never wanted to hurt you so He just separated you from a harmful one. So that, you can continue and learn a lot from the things that man did. slightsmile emoticon
Ladies...
First and foremost, it's not your job to catch a man. It's your job to serve God until He leads a man to you. So don't ever give time and care to someone who's not willing to accept it. Always remember that the best girls (you) are the most difficult to deal with. But a real man, will always treat and love you unconditionally despite of your crazy actions, attitude difficulties and moody changes. Because an undeserving man don't even notice your tears, your sadness, your pain, but he always notices your mistakes.
Take note, wait for a man who will proudly say to others these lines:
"No. My girlfriend is not perfect. She's a human and she's flawed. But, she's perfect to me. And she's perfect for me. That's all that matters."
Learn to follow your heart girls, but always take your brain with you.
Piece of advice.
A girl like you deserves a guy who can proudly say and mean those lines to others. So girls, don't change so a guy will like you. Be yourself all the time, and the right one will accept and love the real you. Why am I saying all of these? That MR. WRONG will compromise your purity then disappear. But MR. RIGHT will surely protect your purity and then change your last name. slightsmile emoticon
I just wanna let every girl know that, moving on is a process. And it is pain related.
No one can easily finish that process without getting hurt over and over again, without crying every night because of him, and without suffering from bitterness or hatred.
Always remember, that your amygdala controls your fears, emotions and the love you feel towards others. So don't be shocked if loving is fear/pain related. Because anatomically/physiologically speaking, that's the explanation of it.
Girls look, you are here because you deserve to be loved, respected and taken cared of. Don't waste time thinking about him, he's not even part of your life anymore. Learn to forgive all the time. Understand what you're going through and don't let the past ruin you. slightsmile emoticon
You should not have to rip yourself into pieces to keep that man whole.
And always put it in your minds,
"Anything that God requires you to give up, he knows it's better for you to be without it."
Don't make your life miserable because of him, stand up. Cheer up. And keep moving forward, no one else can help you with your situation now but you.
You're responsible for your own happiness and work it that way, don't bother thinking about him anymore.
And also, don't be bitter with other boys. They are not all the same. Ü
They have their own uniqueness.
So just, continue your life and let the right man find yoü.
@surpassinggoogle: Nothing can compare you sir terry in terms of doing and helping others. I feel so sad today so this is my entry to your @teardrops and I believe as you say that every teardrops would be rewarded
