Gratitude is something I see as a powerful tool. It helps me to direct my energy and my focus towards things that are beneficial to me, through giving thanks for these things. And it feels good :)
Forgiveness is another powerful tool. Through taking a look at what has happened in the past, I am able to come to forgiveness, of myself or another, so that I am no longer holding my heart away. So typically I come to forgiveness within myself, and if I see that they are at a place to discuss it and be open to what happened, then I am able to speak that forgiveness into the relationship. Although at it's root forgiveness is for me, as I don't like to keep my heart away from anyone, especially myself.
There is a big difference between someone being in a high vibration and choosing to feel gratitude for themselves, to someone being in despair, feeling hopeless and helpless, suicidal and not being able to feel gratitude because they are just in too low vibration to connect with a high frequency of gratitude, but being told to 'Feel Gratitude' as a way to cure their life and issues.
Same with forgiveness. If people are choosing it and it helps them then great. But to say 'forgive the perpetrator' as an only option to someone dealing with huge trauma, shock, upset and grief can only be uncaring and unkind and has no healing potential at all.
My post is about healers and people NOT forcing their views and beliefs on others as a means to heal, but to be more compassionate, caring and less judgmental and controlling! What is right for people with ordinary lives is not going to work for victims of rape, gang rape, satanic rape, abuse, rituals , mind control and other torture.
Yes, telling people to "feel gratitude" is preaching our belief at someone. Sharing our personal experience and how gratitude has been powerful for us is a different; or even better, just choosing to practice gratitude and be the reflection for others to see.
totally feel you though; and understand where your post is being directed, just wanted to look at both sides of it :)
Thank you for your comments, there are definitely two aspects to this and those in a high vibration have no concept of the damage preaching does to those who are not. If they did then they wouldn't preach and cause so much harm to thsoe already suffering.
It is those who are suffering the most that need the most help and it just seems to me that and many others that it's just not there!
Sending Love, Light & Blessings :)