no. Usually both parties believe there are only 2 alternatives regarding the particular subject. Stupid? Yes. Both sides. Malicious? No. Not that often. Just lazy and "comfort zone" oriented... perhaps fearful. Assholes? Sadly a large portion are just that. ...assholes wanting to push their will by force or deception, onto our lives. That pretty much DEFINES "asshole" in my book... even if their intentions are, as they see them being benevolent.