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(Drawing by my mom, my kids)
We decided to take a trip to Chejoo island for memory of my son’s joining in the military.
In korea the military service is a compulsory duty for males.
My son is junior student in undergraduate school.
He is majoring on mechanics, so joining in the military is a serious problem for his study.
I’d like to take a trip with my son to share common experience with my son.
I suggested to him take a trio to Chejoo island, and he agreed with me.
It is not easy to maintain close relationship between daddy and son in Korea due to the influence of Confucius patriarchy system.
I hated a patriarchy system when I was a child.
Father was a symbol of authoritarianism in family.
But as I became a father of a child, I got to know Father was very lonely.
I know very well that my daddy loved me. But he never expressed his feeling to me.
Regardless of childhood experiance, I became authoritative like my daddy.
Unconsciously I followed after my father.
My son was a victim of patriarchic family system.
We had a serious conflict when my son was in middle school.
After entering undergraduate school, we became amicable again.
This trip is 2nd trip with my son.
We decide walk around Chejoo island without any plan.
We will go where we can go, we will stay where we can sleep.
I hope this trip a memorable, so I’d like to talk about this trip with my grandkids when I am getting older.
I appreciate the drawing skills of your kids. I hope you would have memorable trip with your family
thank you
a good idea I think since busy also work our families should be no one right
Amazing art work...
I like when I learn the difference between other cultures. Especially from common people here on steemit. Nice post.
thank you so much
You're welcome.
Obviously, considering who is in the other side of the border.
lol
Wow.really very moving.
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your mother made a beautiful portrait of your children, @slowwalker. You should be very proud of them, as I know you are proud of your mother. She is a true artist.
Some people spend their whole lives either trying to emulate or not be like their parents. It is a a waste of a life.
My advice to you is to be yourself - if necessary, go counter-culture, but show love to your children regardless.
It is very difficult to go against the grain of your upbringing - it's also difficult if you are in an authoritarian religion or culture to resist its teachings.
In the end, each soul is its own and we will stand or fall on the decisions of the heart.
You're a good man, @slowwalker, and i know that forming a close bond with your son is the right way for you to go.
thank you for your advise
I will do it very well
Absolutely right!
Father's are not showy like our mother but the way theh speak and command we know how our father love's us or his son/children...
Your lucky sir you had your father beside you..sad to say i came from a broken family since i was 4 years old :(..
oh I am sorry to hear that
Yes..but life could not end up that way,life must go on..one day if i had my own family i would never let that happen to them my experience in life!
Have fun my friend
thank you
Good jop friend
good art my friend, perfect
It is great to read that everything is fine between you and your son my friend. You should always be friendly with your son and enjoy each moment together.
I wish you a memorable travel together. I am sure you'll have a great one.
Very nice drawing btw. Regards to your mom.
Have a great holiday! Excellent mood! Thanks for the story. I think that on the island you very much!
it is very picturesque
this is really a very good act, the family happy it is a very nice attitude in the household.
first off, the drawing is superb and produced by your talented love ones. The trip that you made with your son was amazing. You have a blessed family @slowwalker. Thank for sharing this such inspired experience.
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Hope you have a lovely time with your son in Chejoo island!:)
very touching and heart warming...i never really had a father so i try very hard to be like a cool american dad and be stern like a korean father. my son is only 2 and im also learning as we go. i find a balance f the 2 works well. thanks for sharing a glimpse of your beautiful family sir!!
Nice post.we too have a patriarchial society .My dad loves me so much but never expresses his feelings .I think the relationship between dad and son be like a relationship of best friend.In our society dads do not become frank with us so there is a chance where sons may go to wrong path.
Thanks for sharing your wonderful moment with your son.. and it's inspiring.. When I read this post, the first thing come in my mind was to take my Papa and Mamma for a trip like this.. They are older now and living a retired life there in my home town.. Hope, we will make this vacation most memorable one.. thanks @slowwalker for sharing such a great great post for us..
Hmmm, really enjoyed story trip. Never knew male military training is compulsory in korea just like it is in israel. thanks for educating me.
i think it was a wonderfull tour.korea is a beautifull country.so hope it was enjoyable.@slowwalker
thank you so much
We all fall hopeless victims of the system, and it's sad how helpless we get. But you seem to have a reasonably good relationship with your son. Hope this trip makes it better! Hope to read more on this @slowwalker
I hope you and your son will have a great time in Chejoo island !!!
This trip will enhance your bond with son
Nowadays, living with my family again, me and dad go out occasionally and watch sports or doing jogging together!
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beautiful publication!! very touching, truly! ...
great painting my friend..... someone has painted with me earlier. I took the opportunity to make my own youtube channel for my daughter......
nice painting and nice story..i like way how you try to get closer to your son..hope he is so lucky to have father like you.anyway one of travel destinations is that island..hope you spent a nice time there.god bless you and your family :)
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I traveled to Chejoo island back in 2003. It was beautiful. I remember the beaches and the women divers. It was extremely impressive how long they could hold their breath.
Surprisingly, what I remember more was the ferry over from the mainland. Everyone was extremely friendly. Continually asking to share their food and drink with me.
Have a great trip.
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Nice trip with your son @slowwalker...very good father and family..
Great drawing I'm sure it brings back amazing memories when you look at the drawing upvote & resteem
It os always fun to take trips with family. I havent done thatwith in so long since im living in korea. Cant wait to go back home
Nice drawing. Your kids are looks happy!!
Your desire to be closer to your son is very heartwarming. Not all fathers and sons would even bother to spend more time together. I hope you enjoy your day. 🐓🐓