Every time we have a disturbing event such as a mass shooting or a natural disaster we get a lot of couch toxicity. We see people sending prayers, thoughts, leprechauns... and of course changing their profile pictures as if that means something. Surely, there is nothing wrong with an act of pointless compassion but this form of ethical charade is part of the problem we have drowned ourselves in online douchebaggery.
The world has problems. Real problems. Likes, profile picture mods or any other positive thinking act doesn't do shit to change this. These acts serve more like a thought experiment, a make-up that aims to cover up our laziness and apathy. They aim to provide each other with a pointless ethical fulfillment, a self delusion. They are making us the exact opposite of humane. They render human action into a pop-cultural meme that as it gets repeated, it fades into oblivion along with the other bullshit around us.
If anything, this demonstrates how palpable our ethics are and how vulnerable we become when it comes to social trends — no matter how fucked up they are. When we have degraded a profile picture, an act of 2 seconds into a meaningful effort for assisting someone in need (or in pain) then we have redefined the meaning of psychopathy. In every other age of human history this would be similar to a sick joke among friends. To us, it serves more like a hybrid mechanism for attention in order to increase our ethical status while at the same time offering us a good night's sleep. "John is a good guy, look he has added a flag, let me add a like". Yes John, you are a real fucking inspiration for us all.
If this was not enough, these people also have another touch of bullshit in their repertoire. The "positive energy" mantra —as if it means anything other self delusion and misunderstanding about how the real world works. How it is possible to believe that if you are "positive" about something it will somehow manifest itself? What kind of fucked math and statistics have you applied and seen this work in the past?. How would you explain this theory to a starving child in Africa or a mother that has seen her child blown to pieces by a grenade? The positive energy movement has become the very definition of toxic because it has no basis to how the world works. It only applies to close privileged western environments that has more and more douchebags reinforcing its dogma. It is as delusionary and illformed as any other cult preaching.
It often slips our mind how messed up life is for many people on this earth. We lose touch with reality because we stare our screen for so long — everything becomes entertainment with an expiration date. Our reactions to these events have been reduced to a few clicks of a mouse or some paragraphs of text. There is nothing more toxic to the human existence other than the distortion of reality for the sake of personal distinguishment. There is nothing more toxic than rejecting those who see things how they are in an effort to relinquish one's bullshit. Realism is not toxic. Living in a privileged bubble that jerks inside an echo chamber is.
That toxic person in your illustration above...
Let's not forget the psycho bitch scalped a cat and wore it like a hat.
AND wore two shades of purple at the SAME time.
If these two signs, coming together, like that eclipse last month isn't an indicator that the end times are upon us...
Folks, I just don't know what is (shaking head)
RIP Fluffy.
Sniff
With the rise of social media where everyone craves likes, approval from others via retweets and shares, what do you expect? There is a film on Netflix that tackles this exact issue in a very clever way: https://www.theverge.com/2016/10/24/13379204/black-mirror-season-3-episode-1-nosedive-recap
I think toxic person is a harmful.
no shit
I'd forgot about that aspect of FaceBook.
I don't miss it.
The best thing is to remove r go away from toxic people especially those who refused to change because they can negetively impact your well being...good post from you always...upped and thanks for sharing.
I wonder if this would fall under the category of Subliminal the words I hear when they say Happiness sound like have penis. But then again I am getting older and my hearing is getting older, and those robot voices are strange.
Have penis is a warm gun?
A bit off-topic yet well worth watching. Thank You
Thanks for checking it out. "I only want the positive one"
Living in a bubble is some people's defense mechanism though. What do you think?
until it pops. then it becomes their worst enemy
toxic is nasty
toxic kill people
no cure
@kyriacous I agree with you regarding posting bullshit memes and pray for Texas quotes. But I will say that I have had some experiences in this thing called life and if I did not remain positive I would have been dead or truly mentally unstable. All things are energy for real and I am not talking about airey fairy bullshit, I have had a colorful life not stuck behind a screen on the internet watching life pass you by. I live daily and I may one day share my story which would play out like something out of a big screen movie. But I just wanted to say don't knock it till you know and you won't find a more real Steemitian on this platform for life experiences from the top to the bottom and not just regarding money I'm talking about levels of people that I have dealt with in my journey and I'm still smiling and walking tall. Love n light to you cause it's real maths is the secret but does not have all the answers and do love your post.
So wait.
You want to tell me that repeating bullshit to yourself can get you through something difficult even if you realize that is bullshit? You do realize how fucked up this sounds right?
There is only one path. Life, is fucked up and will remain fucked up. whatever positive thing you get is more like a gift of luck. Cherish it, enjoy it, but for fucks sake, do not believe for a second that this is the how "normal" is.
it isn't just repeating bullshit if you believe that you are connected to all things.
it isn't just bullshit if you get real world results.
we live in a vibrational reality, and you get what you are. like attracts like, so you will always find people like yourself, that is who you will be drawn. those that think different will avoid you, as you avoid them.
remember free will, it is your right to choose your life. if i could convince you, beyond any doubt of this, then i'd have taken your free will. therefor it is up to you to try it.
the world is responding to your thoughts, whether you believe or not.
abraham-hicks is a good source to get a grasp on this. there are literally thousands that have succeeded using what she teaches.
What is normal but a word try 12 years in prison after working in the houses of Parliament never being in trouble in your life and your life get's fucked up for joint enterprise wrong place wrong time. Trust me what you think is normal is far from normal and I don't repeat anything but love when shit hits the fan. I would share my story which is worthy of a great book. Oh and while I was incarcerated invited back to the House of Parliament UK and in the forefront of a report to change the law which came into effect 2012. Honey you ain't lived no disrespect if you did you would overstand the next layer and the magic of life. I refuse to be a victim, to be labelled, negative energy and consensus I guess that's why we are on Steemit to move away from the norm right. When you realize you are the magic you are looking for then everything falls into place maths is the doorway but you are actually the key I talk from experience I am not here to convince you. Most people overstand the magic of life at their last breath. Even when it's fucked up out of that fucked up can bring about some of your greatest moments.
No evidence and arguments help - such a person hears only himself. They do not lead a normal adult dialogue, they will interrupt, caulk your mouth and just interrupt the conversation if they disagree with something. Strangely enough, the reason for this stubbornness may be insecurity, but you are not a personal psychotherapist of this person to deal with his childish or not very childish traumas. Your job is just to save yourself and your nerves.
These people do not know how to maintain a normal dialogue. They are so absorbed in themselves that they are sure: everyone should listen only to them, so they say without stopping and interrupt on every word.
it's part of the "positive" thinking. they are trying to save you ...
I am sure that all the positive good vibrations from the 1960's and since then have had such a dramatic and effective impact on the world. Why just look around you everyone has food - be happy - no violence in the streets - be happy - No world wars - be happy - .
Yes good intentions positive thoughts karmic giveaways, they have all had such a wonderful effect on the world as we know it.
We may as well be whistling in the wind as train with it's horn blaring passes by. They will not hear.
I can't begin to tell you how much I love this post and how much I agree with you here.
I think we have all experienced this cancer more or less.
Aye, It really annoys me to see people on social medias acting like they care by changing their profile pictures, just to get some extra likes and attention.
I used to flag anyone with a positive thinking post. I don't flag for anything else. even plagiarism.
I liked it a lot ... this type of people was one of the reasons (not the only one) for which I personally closed my Facebook account a while ago completely ... and also I do not socialize too much in Germany like before any more when I am here. Honestly it's disgusting! Everyone is like this here now. Because of the way that we are going, the first word in which I do not believe at the moment is "Democracy" ... and the second word will be "Love". You hit the nail in a total way this time (from my point of view).
Edit: And yes, I know we disagree some time before but .... good for the freedom to comment on Steemit.
Yeah, Germany has become a social justice/positive thinking parade. Every western country more or less that is drowning in prosperity has its head so far up its ass, it loses contact with reality.
Found this on yourbias.is web ... many of the bias are related with the the kind of toxic person you are talking about.
The fundamental misconception of social justice warriors, politically correct people etc. is that we are all the same. Yes we are all the same the day we are born but between our birth and our 30 year of life our Families, Cultures, Religions, Nations, Laws and Constitutions socialize us to become a certain way. A 30 year old German is not the same as a 30 year old Pashtun from a remote village in Afghanistan. A 30 year old Jamaican is not the same to a 30 year old Texan. Hell even a Texan is not the same as a New Yorker and they are from the same Country. There is only one human race but multiple different ideologies of what is right and wrong etc.
You are right without forgetting about the "I love everybody", "we love each other" and "love will make everything ok" ... we are all the same but just as a race or when we are born as you well also say, after that ... even twins do not think or believe in the same things if they are not adoctrinated the same, f.e. if they are separate the moment they born.
As far as I have seen unifications (or centralization can be called also) of something (culture, cities, language, etc) means more easy ways for to control humans.
I agree with you 100% ... avoid toxic people at all costs.
Very good post. I have lived a long life of 81 years. I understand what you are saying in your post concerning "faux caring". I think people are so shocked at some of the inhumanity that goes on today and they want to empathize and do their best to convey that message.
I understand that we are 10% physical and 90% spiritual beings.
In my life I have had things happen where there was no apparent way I could go on and have the life I had worked for and envisioned for myself. But, some how and some way through the grace of God things worked out. I am a staunch believer in prayer and how it changes things. It is amazing that the path is not what I had envisioned but, looking back, was the best way for me.
Interesting definition of toxic people but kind of logic - hard to confirm for a libra from Germany - but I guess your points are correct :-)
This post reminds me of this meme a lot (might be my favorite one ever).
Sadly people don't ever want to know the truth/reality, especially when it doesn't fit them. If you think more about it, you'll understand that you don't want the truth either... nobody does. I don't as well. And trying to change that in other is pointless.
I totally agree with all that you said, I just think that we are acting the same just on another level. How in the world do we know that those prayers don't help? How can you be sure that positive energy doesn't materialize? I am sure that we all saw some videos where some monk makes fire only using his arms. There are plenty of those and people always call bullshit on those videos. But why? Isn't that ignorant as well? I am not much of a religious person myself I believe, but I always keep all the possibilities open. Have you ever thought that all those mantras might be real?
Toxic is toxic avoid it if not you may poisoned.
Thanks for the post that was really interesting.
you have my upvote & resteem
Keep smiling, reading, writing and voting!!!
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Compassturbation?
You obviously refer to the way we manage to cheat ourselves into supporting our own pointless individual existences. Coming to realise this we cannot cheat ourselves anymore. Feeling this unpleasant truth our egos will desperately try to bring us back - but it is too late for that as you cannot cover light with darkness. I know I sound like the 'toxic person', yet let's keep an open mind as there MUST be something else beyond dubmness and depression.
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Life become very difficult for us because we destroy the mother nature to create a God we worship. Life becomes reality when we understand our self and know where we are coming from.
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i respectfully disagree, partially.
there are toxic people that just spout flowery words, but don't truly have the peace of mind behind it that would make it work.
if you haven't done the meditation and self-reflection work necessary to quiet your mind/body/soul... then yes, these people are toxic. they smile, they chirp pretty words, but deep down, you see it in their eyes, they don't believe it, they are simply lying to themselves, they are in denial.
but... there are those that have found inner peace. that inner peace lifts our hearts up and makes you want to sing! you feel good, you know good, you are good. there is nothing that is bad, ultimately, as you see that all is a working concert of people getting and receiving exactly what they asked for. you feel a twang of pain when you see people manifest horrible experiences for themselves, but then what is the point in suffering just because they have chosen poorly? there is none, so i return to peace, serenity... because in that peace and serenity comes a clarity of mind... this clarity of mind is contagious in a way, it spreads to those around you. of course it is a slow process, unless they become mindful of it and do the work consciously.
in the end, it is one of the best things you can do.
because what is the alternative? what is the activist approach you think would help? i say having a clear mind helps those around us not be insane, and it is this insanity that is the cause of all our ills.
so it is time we all stopped, reflected and did the inner work, because it is the real cause, it is the root of all the ills in the world.
namaste
There is nothing wrong with seeking your inner peace, and I do not think that is what kyriacos is saying. But to run around and ignore the Truth of what is going on saying don't worry be happy, is not going to nor has it ever solved a single damn thing in the world. It can and may help an individual, but it is not going to solve anything worldwide.
It is not a slow process, wake up it is a Non-Process. It does and serves nothing to solve the issue of the world. Unless your idea of a slow process is a time scale on the geological scale. In 50 years not one damn thing has been solved by a bunch of namaste hippies sitting around in berkeley on world scale.
just because the bad people speak louder doesn't mean things aren't changing.
they are screaming louder because they are losing their grip, people are waking up.
as an awakened person i'd never hurt another human being out of spite, anger, or jealousy. what i would do is stop another from doing so. but since my change of heart, this kind of thing rarely happens around me. i see almost no violence in my life.
we all create the world we live in, jointly we could create a peaceful paradise.
To be honest, I've been experiencing a certain amount of self pity concerning the fact that I keep witnessing these horrific tragedies, but don't have anything to contribute, so I sit staring through my screen at the world falling apart. There is no easy solution.
MAD respect!!
This is one of my absolute favorite posts on Steemit lately. My wife & I repeatedly talk about the whole "positive vibes" bullshit, and could not have summed it up better than you have in this.
Raw, blunt, honesty. LOVE it.
Still waiting to hear which anti-depressant cocktail this guy was on.
Oh wait, while Big Pharma is required to point out that homicidal/suicidal thoughts and tendencies are a common enough side effect that they're required to disclose them, they never seem to be the cause of these inexplicable violent rampages.
Follow the money.
Toxic whereever I look. Is there anybody out here who is actually still “human” ?
"There is nothing more toxic to the human existence other than the distortion of reality for the sake of personal distinguishment."
I had this conversation with a friend today after we talked about the recent shooting in Las Vegas. It has become so easy to distort reality and ignore what is happening in the world. It has become so easy to skip over mass shooting SNS posts but yet we are quick to 'like' a senseless meme or a north korea joke. This is why i deleted my facebook and instagram apps from my smartphone. (I reinstall and post every now and then because I live abroad and my mom follows me "to make sure i'm alive.")
lol, that is great. i was about to mention i keep a facebook page just to keep in touch from time to time.
I live in my cocoon with crystal white walls ( hehee I really don’t ) and when I look outside I see stinky, fake “bastards” and can’t breath . What to do? Every time I act “negative” like a normal person would feel once in a while and scream or cry, some instagram and facebook people don’t “like” me, think I am not “nice enough”. 🤡 I was recently called a bully for posting #NamasteBitches saying that I am not impressed, it’s not that cool to use NAMASTE without knowing what it really means. I was told that I am “much better than that” sending passive aggressive messages to my so called private “followers”. So, I’m out of the Trend to be your “new toxic” then. Should I cry now?
@kyriacos I like you as this type of topic stirs the community into thinking, although I am a positive thinker I'm not a hippy and I would never put up silly memes. I'm a person of substance like many of us what do we and how do we ensure that we help humanity in their time of need at a time of major trauma now that's the question. We can all be commentators but what are we doing as a community?
I absolutely agree with this article. The sad reality is that people are suffer around the world... Yet many people take use of these issues by "showing support" over social media. They are only upping themselves rather than showing real support. I see these social media acts as useless. Absolutely no benefit to those who suffer..
I agree. We have so many people on this ethic charade in their comfortable little reality bubble. Their comfortable reality bubble is available to them because the evil empire they live under dominates everybody else with violence and manipulation. Empires wish to have their peasant/working class of slaves SHELTERED and ISOLATED from the all the unnecessary suffering and death brought about by their flag.
This "positive energy" mantra meme is as I like to call it New Age Koolaid and has been put their by dark occultists-SATANISTS to deceive and manipulate. Real change in the material world requires ACTION not just thoughts. If people really cared about a tragedy that just happened like this latest shooting or the ONGOING WAR of the american empire; I would ask they try to understand the CAUSAL factors that led to the EFFECTS. Then, address the causes with solutions so that the effects do NOT manifest again. Cause and Effect. We should be asking what are the psychological reasons that these shootings keep happening . Great post man!!!
Man made arms and guns that your same flags and governments manufacture and sell. The bullshit media that manipulates and brain washes the SHEEPLE. Then you have Texas and all the other toxic atrocities that have occurred to humanity by monsters within communities. Seems to me like the more war, violence and hate being spread by the media the more the people in this fake reality the more of a frenzy created in the world. I have never seen anybody die from Love have you?
Although I think solidarity is created to show the human side of humanity (via these Likes and changing of profile pics and stuff), I agree everything else with you.
I personally fucking hate all the gurus, experts and life coaches who think they know everything just because they love life.
Look, not everyone's solution is the same as you. We have our own lives. Let us make our own mistakes.
"There is nothing more toxic to the human existence other than the distortion of reality for the sake of personal distinguishment. "
Loved this line. Kinda reminds me of that life coach who told me he doesn't feel anger forever in his life just because he started meditating.
Oh my goodness. This is a really good post. I could say so much about it I would have to make my own post. But for now, yes its a good read and a great view. I concur :)