'Men and women have roles. Their roles are different, but their rights are equal.'
- Harri Holkeri
Our generation is quite busy trying to prove that women can do what men can do, so that women lose their uniqueness. Women weren´t created to do everything a man can do.
They were created to do everything a man cannot do - and the other way around.
Boys are from Mars and girls are from Venus, YES they do!
Boys, we need you!
Today I want to take up the cudgels for you guys.
'A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.' In a world where nonsense like this is celebrated by feminist movements, it´s time to stand up for the male species and recognize one thing:
Girls, be honest, without them we´d be completely lost!
10 reasons we can´t live without them ❤️
- They are braver than we are.
- They are less emotional and bring us down when we start creating drama.
- They are less complicated and need half of the words we need to explain something.
- They put things on the table and don´t need cat fights.
- They are stronger than we are and can carry us over the threshold.
- They protect us.
- They make us proud.
- They don´t need make-up to look good.
- They can be our best friend, advisor, lover and partner or everything at the same time.
- They are unique.
What do boys receive in return for all these contributions? Drama, complexity, emotions and much love. Just us :)
Outtake:
Me: Aaaaaaaaaaaaaah!
My boyfriend: Are you okay?
Me: Noooooooo, a huge spider is attacking me!
Him: Where?
Me (pointing finger to the other side of the room): There?
Him (picking it up carefully): That´s a cute one. It´s actually almost not visible.
Me: Size doesn´t matter. It´s surely a poisonous one that just wanted to kill me.
Then we both started laughing.
Girls, stop trying to be like them. You don´t look good pretending to be anything but yourself.
It doesn´t matter that we are not made to be the best leaders, firefighters, aviators or fathers. We don´t have to.
You´d rather embrace the differences between men and women. The merger of these magical discrepancies make relationships interesting, exciting and extraordinary.
In the end all species, independently from their gender, want to be loved and appreciated. We are all insecure and disheartened when someone judges us and we were created to spread and create opportunities for a peaceful life full of love.
Thanks for your attention, I hope you enjoyed the read :)
Marly -
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Reddust, I truly enjoyed your comments on this post. You are very eloquent with words and how you express yourself. I will not give my two cents worth on the male species as I feel you did a briliant job. Very entertaining.
Not give it to the male species? I am a girl, too :D
My bad I am truly sorry. I meant to write female as I knew very well you represent the best species in the world, the ones men cannot survive without. Wink wink.
Haha, not sure I they can't survive without us but know what you mean 😄👍
Men and women have a symbiotic relationship. In today's world we are forced to compete for manufactured limited resources. This makes it easier to rule over humans. One stick is easy to break compared to a bundle of sticks.
Most of the men I know are like their sex organs, out front, no hiding when they want to fight or make love. Women carry their sex organs inside, they hide and strike from the side in love and war. Of course there are exceptions to every rule. The native Americans had several gender rules for different types of women and men. The two spirit people carry both gender energies and played roles in the arts/crafts and shaman spirit world. A strong women with high sexual energy and good business sense was highly prized as first wife in the Blackfoot tribe. A good man gave everything away to the tribe, protected and provided food for his family.
I'm attracted to very smart men that are taller than me and focus on family. I can hunt/cure meat, garden, sew, care for babies/kids and feel comfortable in traditional roles Women played in my society. I can hunt/fish/camp and don't like girly stuff, I like hanging out with the guys and listening to their bullshit.
Wow, that was a thought provoking comment, thank you!
Actually, I´ve never considered that the position of sex organs could have any influence on a certain male/female behavior. Plus: I know a lot of women that are quite aggressive when it comes to conquer men. Seems that I have come to know a lot of exceptions to that rule :)
I totally agree on that last part. My whole life I´ve always felt more comfortable being surrounded by a group of boys than by a group of girls. I´d always favor fishing and camping over shopping and dressing :D
Thanks for stopping by, @reddust. I enjoyed the read!
I didn't fully agree with everything you said in your article, but much of it. I am likely going to be hanging out with the guys and @reddust talking about whatever. I don't like the stereotypical "girl stuff". Shopping, Drama, too many shoes, etc.
I do however have a nurturing personality and other "girl-like" features. I am more emotional, he is more reserved emotionally. In my house I kill the spiders and mow the lawn, but he fixes all the broken stuff and helps me with the heavy lifting. I clean faster, he cleans deeper. We have taken turns earning more and less than each other. It is always a careful dance when you do not have traditional roles.
My husband is a protector and a lover and I wouldn't want it any other way. I sum it up with - We are equal and very different.
Nice conversation ladies. I enjoyed reading what you both had to say about it.
That is a really nice view @whatsup. I very much like the idea of the "careful dance", that's a beautiful description. Obviously that dance is something very personal and there are no books that describe the ideal choreography. It evolves between two persons that care for each other and the common way, giving and taking, loving and being loved.
I think I should write more about relationships, it's so fulfilling to have all these great talks with you :)
I think the men's plumbing is a very poor design, especially in battle. I have pondered why men are so aggressive with such tender parts hanging out for the world to see...lolol. One good kick in the balls and they're out of action! Women have a better design ... we make superior warriors too
Bodies are like cars, designed for certain kinds of terrain, we cannot deny this, people sound crazy when they do! But the mind, the driver of the car is like water, it takes the color and the shape of its container...
I love men and respect the burdens they must carry. I would not want to be a man. How does one walk with such tender parts between their legs....haha😂😂😂
I've thought a lot about this, you and I are called Tomboys in my society.
Comment from my boyfriend who has just read your reply: Why are boys always reduced to their balls? :D Well that´s a word actually.
Tomboys... Can´t we be Tomgirls? :)
I hate English....Alsoomse is a name given to a tomboy in the Blackfoot tribes. It means independent.
The name Tomboy came from a movement back in 1550s. Women who wanted to wear sensible clothing, eat healthy and exercise!
Tell your boyfriend men need to evolve balls and dicks like hyenas. They are kept inside, in fact you can't tell a girl hyena from a boy!
I wouldn't reduce men to just their balls if they weren't trying to show me how big they are all the time ....hahahaha
LOL - oh really do they? :D
Thanks for the hyenas theory, I´ll tell him. Even though I am not sure if we may change that in the short term, haha
Thanks for the laugher :)
hahah.. That's a good question
Thanks for this. :) As a man, it's hard to know sometimes what the rules are anymore... I tend to just default to my natural abilities, but being a sensitive guy, I'm always thoroughly aware of the overbearing force unleashed upon the world by my gender, so I also carry myself with that knowledge, for good or ill. So it's nice to receive encouragement from women to be more fully what we are, in all its foibles and depths.
I for one am thoroughly enchanted by the mystery... the cosmic spin of opposites, the yin yang, the expansion-contraction, the inhalation-exhalation, the push-pull, the explosive-implosive... to be sure, men and women possess varied traits, but we are by nature, generally possessed of the qualities of our gender. Even though we are exploring non-binary gender identity, this has always been the case in shamanic societies, and this is a magical point from which to operate as well.
For the mass of humanity, there remains this push-pull, this cosmic tidal flux of give and receive, an energetic exchange of ancient forces through which we move, and evolve! We can change the story all we want, but the underlying principles remain the same. The social revolution of roles should perhaps be aware of its very limited sphere within the cosmos. The flower does not erupt with destructive force, nor does the volcano receive guests. It's not something to be fixed, it's just the way things are, for now... in this reality.
Wow. To be honest, I don´t exactly know how to reply to such an impressive comment :) If it was a post, I´d reblog it right away.
I agree on every single word and loved the way you put them together.
This.
Thank you @lovejoy, your view on our reality was absolutely inspiring!
Hah! Well, I for one appreciate the opportunity to share my thoughts on a topic in the comments of your post, rather than having to create a stand-alone post myself. ;) Thanks for your kind words. I'll get back to 'posting' things soon, but for now, it's more comfortable here in the comments. Onward @surfermarly! :)
You are welcome and I am looking forward to reading you again soon :)
@surfermarly, I really like this post and would give you +200% for it, if I could!
It feels to me like we have been pushed into an artificially structured society that ignores basic biology and nature in favour of... what, exactly? Seems like part of the problem is that technology has pushed our development along MUCH faster than genetics can keep up with; we can't adapt as fast as our advancements are moving.
People misunderstand the whole "equality" thing. I grew up in Denmark, which is one of the most gender-egalitarian societies in the world... but men and women are not "the same;" the idea is (which I think is also what you're suggestion) to give everyone equal opportunity to be themselves, whatever that means in each individual case... let's not stereotype "humans" or "men" or "women."
Thank you @denmarkguy! First of all for your valuable thoughts, and second for your 200% vote :))
YES! That´s it. 200% agreed :)
Some people have obviously misunderstood my intention what you can see from their comments here. When saying that men are stronger, I don´t mean that women are stupid. It´s just that we bring gender-specific potentials and thanks to them perfectly complement one another.
I totall embrace all these differences, not only the gender-specific ones. It´s what vital relationships are about.
Again, thanks for your great comment!
I don't think we were created to be anything, we just are what we are. Indeed, we are a sexually dimorphic species. The range of traits common among males of the species differs from those common among females.
I don't believe in a 'Men should fulfill X role, women should fulfill Y role' approach to life. You are an individual not an archetype, you have your own traits which may be influenced by your biological gender and societies influences/expectations, but ultimately you can choose to pursue whatever goals or roles in life you prefer, or feel best suited towards.
I totally agree with all of your arguments and the freedom to become whatever you wanna be is actually what I wanted to express with my last paragraph :) I don´t like stereotypes either. However, there are obvious differences between men and women.
That´s what I meant, yip. Without any judgement or stereotyping :)
Thanks for your valuable comment, @demotruk!
Pick one?
Haha, I don´t have to actually :)
Gender specific differences are not equal to stereotypes. Stereotypes are artificially created and oversimplified images. Gender specific shades (to what I was refering) are mostly genetically driven.
Ask 10 guys if they wanna do a header from that 5m rock and then ask 10 girls. Not saying that all of the 10 girls will refuse it, but...:)
Funny somehow that so many pointed on that stereotypes thing here, while I just wanted to say: guys, we love and need you.
I likeded this read... kinda like Yin and Yang.
Thank you Mr. Wang! It seems the way the universe works :)
Schöner Post :-) Resteemed :-)
Danke lieber Jochen!Freut mich sehr, dass er Dir gefallen hat :)
I love this post. And I agree wholeheartedly. I wonder though, if that is just because you and I were fortunate enough to find that exact right match. Actually I wondered that after reading reddust's comments, because I admit she has a few good points. But, I know that if the car died I would be stuck without one until I could afford a ridiculously large price to fix it...if not for my man, among many other stereotypical examples, like your spider analogy ;)
Resteeming this in honor of my anniversary which was yesterday, because I want to celebrate my man. (made a post, anniversary on a motorcycle, lol)
Congratulations @dreemit! That's a great way to celebrate an anniversary actually. I've seen and upvoted it yesterday before going to bed and will fly over to leave a comment right away after finishing this one.
Probably we realize how worth these relationships are when we've found them. Not talking only about spiders or fixing cars (I'd behave like you 100% btw ;)), but especially about true love. That's a wonderful gift, hard to find but really worth waiting for. That's why I have never said something like "all men suck", not even when I was frustrated after a break-up.
Sharing all these adventures life has to offer is so much fun!
Seems that we have another belief in common :) Enjoy your day!!
Thanks for that @surfermarly as men arent feeling the love anymore and I like number 8 They don´t need make-up to look good lol
Men aren't feeling the love anymore? Oh I hope that's not a global thing. There are girls that have much love to give, believe me ;)
I scream while my girlfriend kills bugs. Is that wrong?
LOL - Then you are the famous exception of the rule :-D
It is nice to be appreciated.
But to be fair.
As a man.
I don't like wasps too much..
Haha, I won´t tell anybody :D
Thanks @moon32walker!
klasse.. gefällt mir sehr der Post!! gute Arbeit....nehm ich mit!
Vielen lieben Dank!!! Man muss ja für die Jungs auch mal eine Lanze brechen :)
Schönen Tag Euch!
Your post is thought provoking @surfermarly!
Some of us are hunters and some of us are gathers...not much in that wiring or genetic programming has changed in 10,000. We are social creatures and do better surviving, when we exist in teams. :)
Yeah, the world is much better in many senses when working in teams, I fully agree with you!
Thank you, Rebecca! Thought provoking is the maximum I might achieve :)
Have a good day!
You too @surfermarly!
One fact is that we are necessary for each other to continue the human race. But until the end of understanding each other and we can not. Never.
You mean that there will remain always a certain mystery? Hopefully it will! :)
Well, of course) Men should not know women as a flipped book)
Agreed. And the other way around either :)
Querida Marly @surfermarly, como vai? Os seus posts são sempre intensos, profundos, com uma alta carga de palavras animadoras, fortes e claro, com muita polêmica. Gosto muito disso e de ler, ouvir o que você tem a dizer :)
Muito obrigada per your kind words, I truly appreciate them!
I´ve just seen one of your last articles opening with these words: "Confusing times, difficult, full of mental confusion, where human beings are increasingly sensitive, intolerant, where dialogue and good conversation is no longer part of the relations between us."
Maybe we can contribute to get back some of these good conversations here :)
Bom dia!!
Glad to see you like it. Everything in life is dialogue and with them we can solve most of our problems. A big hug, a kiss and I wish all the best for you.
You are absolutely right! If people spoke more to each other, things would be less complicated :)
Big hugs back!
A nice post.... not trying to sound negative but a man can be as close to perfect gentleman and a woman will say, that they don't find you attractive... all the friendship, honor, trust, consideration and respect that a man has given to that woman means nothing and leaves the man heartbroken. (even though I have written this response everything you wrote is absolutely correct).
Thank you@mithrilweed. Supposedly we have all made negative experiences in that context some day.
The image I´ve drawn is surely the ideal one, the perfect match.
However, it´s there. No matter how often my heart got broken, I´d never stop believing in true love. Yes, I am rather romatic :)
Where we're strong you're weak and where we're weak you're strong.
We all have a role to play.
Yeah, it can be actually a lot of fun to complement one another :)
Thanks for the smart adding, @fulltimegeek!
I gotta say, I feel like I don't fundamentally disagree with the entire post, but when you start saying that "men are braver" , "they are unique", "they put things on the table", I'm starting to think that maybe you live on your own planet with some men I don't know.
You fail to credit the multitudes of smart, strong, creative women. Sure, there are differences between men and women, but you're just encouraging women to fit a mold with which you're comfortable.
I'm all for the classic, romantic gender roles, but if you've ever left your nest, you'd see that the world is full of beautiful men and women filling many different roles that don't fit this stereotype.
I'm sorry that you seem to feel offended. That wasn't meant to discredit women, just to celebrate men ;) I didn't say with any word that women aren't creative or smart. Did I?
I didn't credit women because this is a post for boys (see headline ;)). Maybe in my next one I will celebrate girls, who knows.
I've actually "left my nest" (like you call it) a couple of times, have been living in four different countries already, speak their languages fluently, traveled a lot, visited several continents and met uncountable of these beautiful people you mention there. I've probably left home more often than I've been there actually :-) So that shouldn't be any criteria...
I fully agree with your point that there are infinite roles we can fill. What I wanted to point out are classical gender-specific and lovely differences, no stereotypes.
Thanks for stopping by and sharing your point of view :)
looking down "Hm, no I really do not have a penis." Reading this I feel more a man than ever haha. I fit the male description better than the female one without trying.
LOL - me, too. Until a certain point. But hey, the exception proves the rule :)
The war on boys
Does that still mirror the current time (since the article is 17 years old)? However, that pays tribute to the introduction of my post. Society tries to push girls artificially. I'm not a fan of these trends. Every person has an individual potential which is determined both by genetical and educational aspects. Some of these genetical characteristics are gender specific, too. We won't ever change that. The Universe works like that ever since...
the RESULTS of the war on little boys from seventeen years ago are fairly evident to day I would suggest.
Evident in which sense?
read the news. I'm sure you can figure it out.
Thought you know it since you came up with this topic here :)
Come to your own conclusions. I have no wish to be attacked by stating mine.
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Typical man ;-)
LOL - That's no. 10, absolute uniqueness :D