Last night, my husband and I went out to eat some local Penang food. It's always a must to do whenever we were backed to this beautiful Penang island, which is full of delicious local foods. As soon as we finished eating, there was an old lady with dirty clothes walking towards us. She is asking for money.
We are not filthy rich people. Yet whenever we see an old man, old lady, or a handicapped asking for money or selling something, we will help by giving a few ringgit that we can afford, which would be enough for them to fill their bellies.
The old lady came to us, extended her hand towards us and said:
"Can you give me some money? 10 ringgit will be fine. I can go to have 'Bak Kut Teh' (Herbal Meat Pot) "
My husband has taken out the wallet to get the money before she finished the sentence.
When I heard what the old lady said, I felt a bit disgusted.
At that moment, we only had 5 ringgit, and the rest were bigger notes. So my husband took five ringgit and gave it to her.
That 5 ringgit will be enough for her to get herself a decent meal.
The old lady took the five ringgit, with the disgusted look on her face and said:
"Only give 5 ringgit, is not there any money in the wallet?"
Then turned around quickly and walked away.
I am not a person who would get angry so easily. But when I heard what she said, I was super pissed!
I almost stand up to chase her and get our money back. I would rather give that to the others who would be more grateful and who is more in need. She didn't even say thank you after taking the money but that.
No matter how old you are or how unfortunate you are, there's no obligation for the others to help you. People offer help out of their kindness, they do not wish to see you starve or suffer.
However, there will always be such people like that old lady around us, thinking everyone is obliged to help her. If you do not help them, they will turn around and say you are ruthless.
As a person, if you do not have the gratitude for those who helped you, then do not expect others to offer any helps next time. Others can help you for once, but they will never help you a second time. Because you are not grateful for it and you do not respect the help that they offered.
话说昨天晚上我跟老公去吃东西。回到槟城这充满美食的地方，我们总得吃一下路边小吃不可。在我们就快吃完的时候，有个全身脏兮兮的老婆婆向我们的座位走过来。她是过来要钱的。
我们并不是什么大富大贵的人。可是当我们看到老公公，老婆婆，或残障人士，要钱或在卖东西什么的，我们都会给出我们能力所及的几块钱，至少是足够他们填饱肚子的。
那个老婆婆走过来，向我们伸出手掌，说：
“可以给些钱婆婆吗？10块钱就可以了，婆婆可以去吃肉骨茶。”
老婆婆还没说完，老公已经把钱包拿出来准备拿钱。
当我听到老婆婆说的那句话的时候，我心里莫名有些反感。
当时我们只有5块钱，剩下的都是大钞。所以老公拿了5块钱给老婆婆。
那5块钱，已经足够老婆婆吃一顿饭了。
老婆婆接过5块钱，一脸嫌弃的说：
“才给5块钱，钱包里不是还有钱吗？”
然后就转身快步离开了。
我不是个容易生气的人。可是当我我听到她这么说我真的真的很生气！
差一点没追上去把那5块钱拿回来，给更有需要的人。拿了钱连一声谢谢也没有，还要说这种话，活像是别人欠她一样。
我想说，不管你有多老，或多不幸，别人是没有义务帮你的。人家帮你，也是出自于好心，不忍心看到你没有一餐温饱。
身边也会有这种人，觉得别人帮他是天经地义的事。如果你不帮他，他还会反过来说你无情无义。
身为一个人，如果你连一点感恩之心都没有，认为别人对你的帮助都是应该的，那就不要奢望别人真的会帮助你。帮得了你一次，就不会再帮你第二次。因为你一点都不感恩，更不尊重别人对你的帮助。
@smile4ever, 生活的片段，总是令人寻味！
可不是吗？多亏了这些生活的片段，才让我们领悟了一些道理，更造就了我们精彩的人生！
If I'm in the same situation with you, I'll feel the same @smile4ever.
We are willing to help them... they are not suppose to demand.
Now days there's alot of people like that, sometimes they just simply say "I'm poor & you should help me" and at the same time we know they do nothing to improve their life
Yes, that's indeed true. I would never give money to those who are healthy and who still have the strength to fight for their own living. Even people with handicapped earn their living on their own by selling something. I salute them and always support them no matter what are they selling and pay more to them.
i'll get her to join me for dinner instead handing out the money. I dun mind paying more for her meal, at least i get to see her eating her meal for the money that i'm about to give her.
Seeing her enjoying her food was satisfying to me.
I think next time if I am not able to invite her to join me for dinner, I would buy a meal for her instead of giving her money.
@smile4ever Had it been me, I too would feel disgusted. Probably, a little angry too. We can only tell ourselves: these days, macam-macam orang pun ada.
I missed the good old days when I was young. Everyone is so kind and friendly to each other.
If me ah, just give her the RM10 and up to her what she wants to eat. These days food is also pretty expensive. If shes not grateful to the help given to her, its her loss lor.