There are some that say to me “get a real job” or “you’re just a hooker because of the money!” Well no shit Sherlock. Of course I suck dick just because of the money.
Get a real job? Like the jobs people have slaving away for some faceless corporation, wasting away the best years of their lives behind a computer screen, editing a PowerPoint presentation for the fifth time that day because their manager (the person making 70k more than them) doesn’t know how to “make it look nice the way you can.”
"Yes! I fuck strangers for money. No, I wouldn't fuck those same strangers for free"
And money? Yeh, I need money and I have some shocking news for you. Australia is a capitalist society! Part of participating in a capitalist economy demands that I make money; that I exchange goods or services for tender. It just so happens that my services are my “goodies”. I demand money from someone that wants me to sit on his or her face. And yes, if someone wants to spend time with me, I demand a fee for my time. Every job I’ve ever done has been and will be for the money. I’m not ashamed of that fact.
Money = Security = Happiness.
Making what most Aussies make in a week in just a few hours can become addictive. But it’s not the money I’m addicted to most of all. It’s the freedom of being my own boss. Choosing my clients, how I market myself, the hours I work. Power. The power to choose! Every time I decide to move away from escorting and get a “civilian” job, I regret it within weeks. The first time I stepped away from sex work for a while, I was living in Sydney – Australia. For some reason, I wasn’t having the same success in there that I’d had in Brisbane. The rent on my terrace apartment was $750 a week and the jobs I was getting in Sydney just weren’t covering my expenses they way they did in QLD. I was slowly watching my savings whither away to nothing. So I did the thing that I dread more than anything to this day.
My very first day back in an office environment was so depressing. Gossip, lecherous male co-workers, my manager going out of her way to be an asshole and make me feel inferior because that “was her way.” I had 50-60 people reporting to me at any one time and the pressure piled upon them at any given moment was criminal. But hey, that’s business right? The management team consisted of four others and myself. Three men and one other woman. During my first three months the men went out of their way to have pissing contests with one another. Fucking their way through our direct reports whilst simultaneously looking down their noses at me if I was so much as seen in the same venue as staff outside of business hours. The only other woman in the same pay grade as me made a point of withholding important information from me and refusing to provide any expertise in anything unless she was directed to do so by our manager. She only spoke to me when she needed my assistance and would try to play off my work as her own. My manager – Christ on a cracker. That woman will go down in history as one of the biggest assholes I’ve had the pleasure of working for. Not because she was a “bitch.” Because she was a bully and would go out of her way to humiliate her staff. During my tenure, my team was a revolving door of colleagues who, according to her; “couldn’t cut it” (really, she really talks like this.) One of my direct reports was miserable at this job. He came to me and said he wanted to resign but he felt that he owed the company for giving him a job. He OWED the company, for LETTING him WORK for them. He was worried what management would think of him for resigning within his first three months of working there.
" I told him that being "loyal" to a company was from a bygone era and that he needed to do what was right for him, not for XYZ corporation."
I know you’re thinking to yourself that this is obviously a dysfunctional and toxic workplace. It’s not what all offices are like. Well, having worked in more than my fair share of office environments I’m here to tell you - it is. That office environment was quite tame compared to some of the others I’ve worked in. I could give you one horror story after another. Awful shit that’s been said and done to me by co-workers.
Hazing, sexual harassment, bullying, working ridiculous amounts of overtime to show how loyal you are to the company. All of these things come with the territory of working in an office environment. In case you think I’m being hyperbolic here’s the latest data on from the Australian Human Rights Commission (AHRC). [In 2016-2017 just shy of 15,000 complaints were received by the commission alone.](https://www.humanrights.gov.au/sites/default/files/Complaints_AR_Stats_Tables%202016-2017.pdf) If you go back through their previous annual reports you’ll see that these numbers are comparatively quite conservative for them. In other words, that was a GOOD year.
I’m not trying to tell you that escorting for me has always been roses. No sir. I have one or two dark tales, and I’ll share them eventually. But being a Sex Worker frees me from the machine in a way that only other successful entrepreneurs will understand.
I just missed your welcome post so I thought I'd welcome you on your second blog post. I can't wait to read more. Between the sex-positivity, the rational self-interest and healthy mindset for what you provide for your clients, consider yourself followed haha. I love your look and that gif at the end of your posts is adorable.
As I have been studying the blockchain and considering what my current position does for my ultimate vision and I have been making the moves to becoming an independent consultant. I ,too, have found that the work dynamics that survive the traditional worlplace end up burning out employees quickly and some still say "thank you may I have another?" Blockchain, with its power to erase a lot of middle-man positions in financial, political realms and beyond, will open many people stuck doing the "have-tos" to pursuing the things that do inspire them.
Thanks for saying hello! I just went and checked out your stuff and it has to be the most interesting I've found here so far (to me anyway). I'm looking forward to seeing more from you :)
Squirrelfriend, that is so sweet! I am very excited to have found your account as well! Tell ya friends, I'm planning on doing 100 kegels for 100 followers so that might be my next topic, since I'm super close!
Good for you. You have a choice and at the end of the day it’s your choice. When I ask, why doesn’t she just get a job? I’m hoping you have the skills to do so, which you do. you can, you have, and you don’t want to. I do worry about retirement and your health, but I’m sure you’ll cover those as well. Thanks for sharing with us, look forward to learning more about your life style without a play by play of the actual event.
Thank you for stopping by and commenting.
I will most certainly be addressing the health aspects of Sex Work very soon, and had planned to write a post about taxes, budgeting and how I learned the hard way how important those things are.
We should all work for freedom not money. In reality money allows freedom to happen. Nice post.
A very old saying thats always stuck with me is "work to live, don't live to work." When I was young and just starting out in IT I didn't quite understand until I got a little older and was spending the majority of my waking hours working. I really do only do the bare minimum now and use my spare time to do other activities that enrich my life.
Why does this kind of office bollocks always happen in Sydney?????
Not just in Sydney hun. The worst stories I have are from office environments based in Brisbane.
👏👏👏 Bravo well said!
My respects lady @missvee 🙂
After being a freelance illustrator for 2 years, I definitively don't want to go back to an office job ever!
Good for you! It makes me happy knowing there are others out there that have been able to escape the rat race and work for themselves! I'm so happy that something I wrote resonated with you. Thanks for reading.
wow! its not everyday i come upon people like you that share the same mindset as i do when it comes to hating working for someone else! kudos to you for being a strong woman and for sharing your stories with us! yeah ive had my fair share of working for a company and being 'loyal' to them is totally not worth someone's time.