I can't really relate to the experience, as I of course never went to a barber shop and I don't know of an alternative for women that gives me that same feeling you describe... I don't like to do any 'grooming' outside of the house, and if it isn't about grooming it's often mixed sex anyway.
But I know of a barber like you describe in my city and they are super popular and men love to spend hours there.
Here's a digital present for you: http://taperedthrone.com/ - even though I'm not a man I am a photographer and I'm in love with this work. Mesmerizing :-)
In the U.S. there are salons where women will go in groups to get manicures and pedicures. It seems to be very similar to the barbershop for men. Very interesting website, thanks for sharing the link! I hope your boyfriend is recovering quickly!