Hello fellow Steemians!
Bold assertion on title. But i stick on it to my life. Especially for private sector employees. They, including me, we have a lot of social rights according to book, but not for real. When it comes to take your rights, take your rightful salary or make a earned vacation, no any employer practice rules on book.
I'm not here to complain, we all have to work in the end. I'm here to narrate working life is harder if you are married. And it's even harder if both of spouses working.
"Hey, what are we gonna eat at dinner?"
"Don't know, do you want to cook?"
"No, i'm exhausted. I had 10 children today with 20 parents. Those 20 finished me, not the kids. Do you want to cook?"
"Nah, i'm exhausted either. Should we order?"
This is one of our ordinary phone conversations with my wife. If both of spouses work and their salaries can not afford a maid could cook, meal become a great issue in their life. It's working like that for us so far. Sometimes, on of us wants to cook, but this is really rare. We usually order in the first weeks of the month. But when our family economy going deep, we are trying to find any other solution.
"I don't want to cook. Do you?"
"No, today was really tough. Should we order?"
"Impossible, we barely survive this month. What are we gonna do?"
"Think we should go to my mom's"
Yes, this is a fine choise if the bride and mother-in-law can get along well. Otherwise, this is not an option, i know. It works for us though. Actually, they are get along really well enough to bury me alive :)
"Should we go to cinema?"
"Nah, we could watch TV."
"Should we go for a jaunt?"
"I feel worn out. Maybe another time."
"Should we pay a visit to our friends?"
"I don't want to see anybody but you."
Asociality. This is probably the worst problem of both working spouses. Everything seems meaningless but to sit at home. Cinema? Who will go out and enter ticket line? Concert of favorite band? Loud music whole night? Sorry, i will pass. I can multiple examples but can not change the idea behind: Working couples are asocial humanbeings. Sorry.
"When that pimple popped in your nose?"
"Whoa, it popped 3 days ago, haven't noticed?"
"Hey, where this cardigan came from?"
"We bought it together a month ago, don't you remember?"
And the last chapter, paying no attention. This is more about occupied mind the whole time. Thinking about today's workings, planning tomorrow and paying less attention to loved one beside you. This is not just for men, women alsa paying less attention when their mind occupied. This is a humanitarian issue. And most of the weddings ending up because of that. Be careful, take care of each other and don't forget to tell each other how you in love with him/her. This is the way we keep our excitement alive so far.
Bottomline is, working life is a real bitch when you both working. For some people, it's impossible to work a marriage like that. But if you have mutual dreams as leaving city, leaving country or have your own work, this could work well. Even this can motivate you and let you ignore the trips of your spouse. We are sharing the mutual dream, leaving the city and raise our children in countryside. We are working for this, trying to make money.
But, this part is really important, we never forget to care each other. We always laugh together, sleep together and do everything together. We already don't see each other too much, because of our working hours. So we spend every spare moment together and show each other how we love him/her.
Keep your marriage alive, and don't give up from your dreams.
Have a nice evening :)