Have you ever been compared to another person?
Do you compare two people or more?
How would you feel if you were compared to another person?

This type of question is important to perform in order to evaluate what you would feel if you feel that your work is not being valued and you are compared with other people. When we are all unique and special. Imagine if as an adult you feel bad, what would happen if you make comparisons with children.

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Parents or teachers sometimes want to motivate children and tend to fall into comparisons without knowing the damage they are causing in them, since no person likes to be compared with others. Sometimes parents create a rivalry in wanting their children to be the best in everything, without really looking at the emotions or desires that it manifests.

Consequences of comparing children:

• Children who are compared to their siblings or friends, tend to feel envious or to be filled with rage by others, because they feel that their qualities are not enough or similar to what parents really want, leaving aside their real personality.

• When we compare a child with others, we are affecting the self-esteem of the person, generating insecurities, since, we are projecting in the child that his qualities are not valued and that he should try to be someone else. Over time, the child tends to become depressed, causing physical and emotional illnesses.

• Comparisons only have negative consequences for children, because in addition to feeling sad or angry, in the long run an insecure individual will be trained, full of fears, unable to relate to other people and without really knowing who he is or what to achieve in life in the future.

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How to help the child acquire positive qualities or behaviors.

• It is important not to compare a child with another, but to emphasize their personality and positive qualities, to create security and at the same time reinforce their values ​​as a more social, extroverted, friendly, healthy and above all happy child.

• We must let them know that we value everything they do and in that way teach them to focus on positive things and work correctly on negatives, it is about showing a real world where it should always be, and not imitating others.

• Children are sensitive, so you must create assertive communication methods where they can express themselves freely, also support any extracurricular activity that you want to put into practice, besides not creating labels like: you can not, you do not know, you're not good, you have to learn, since they are incorrect sentences to use in children.

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It is essential that parents use appropriate vocabulary with their children, in the same way educators should not create favoritism among their students, as it would only cause negative things for the child's personality and their way of relating to others. Each being is unique and special because of its way of being. We must learn to love one another and above all accept ourselves as we are.

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