i love the approach. I totally believe in the good in people, that it is at our core.. I've had a few opportunities to talk to my nephew when he was upset, and used language he could understand and it worked. I got the idea from somewhere that children had the same intelligence but no experience. and what you seem to be doing is helping them to use their own minds, getting them to see the problem, and getting them to fix it... I love it. vast improvement over order them to do something without getting them to see why. I'm guessing your corrections result in longer term results (not that they won't need to be reminded again...).