I encounter all kinds of different people in my daily life.
Big people, small people, angry people, friendly people, confident people, nervous people, outgoing people, talkative people..... but there are two kinds of people that really stand out.
These people tend to live very different lives.
I'm talking about Nice people and Mean people.
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When you first meet someone, whether it's a server in a restaurant, a co-worker, or simply a new acquaintance, you can generally get an impression of what they're going to be like.
I see people interact all day long, and even though I hate to make surface judgments, it's pretty easy to tell who's nice and who's not nice.
Nice people have much easier lives.
Let's take a theoretical situation involving a man named Tom and a man named Steve.
Tom goes to work everyday and greets his coworkers.
"Hey guys! How is everyone!" he asks.
Everyone is happy to see Tom. Tom is a nice guy.
Tom likes everyone and everyone likes Tom.
When people go out to lunch they make sure to invite Tom.
When someone goes out to pick up a bunch of coffee for everyone they tend to ask....
"Hey don't you think Tom might want a coffee?"
Tom is in people's thoughts beause Tom is a nice person.
Tom respects people and in return he is respected.
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Now let's take a look at Steve.
Steve goes to work everyday and greets his coworkers, just like Tom does.
"What's up."
Steve doesn't make eye contact. He really doesn't want to be at work. He makes it clear that he's not happy being around people.
Everyone is uncomfortable to see Steve. Steve is mean and everyone knows it.
If he could be somewhere else Steve would immediately leave. He's only at work because he has to be there. He doesn't want to actually talk to anyone.
No one invites Steve to lunch.
Steve sees other people laughing and drinking coffee together and he wonders where they got it. No one asked him if he wanted any.
He yells at people when they make a mistake at work.
He frowns at people when they walk by.
Steve disrespects people and no one wants to be around him.
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Being nice isn't just a trait...... it's a skill and everyone should learn it!
Human beings are social creatures that live together in a community.
Sometimes each of us is in a bad mood. We get angry, scared, sad, nervous...... we can often be easily controlled by whatever emotion is happening in that moment.
It's important not to let whatever negative emotion is currently going on with you affect how you interact with other people.
A nice person might find themselves without a place to stay for the night....... but it wouldn't be too hard for them to find a friend that would let them stay at their house.
A mean person might find themselves in a similar situation and they would simply be in a boat without a paddle.
Friends make the world go round.
When you treat people the right way they will treat you the right way back.
There are all kinds of people in the world.
If you're nice person it means you've learned how to survive in a way that mean people haven't figured out yet.
I wish everyone was nice. Sometimes I feel that the world is heading in a bad direction.
Other days I encounter someone nice every time I turn around.
Nice people live better lives.
That much I can assure you.
I hope that you've been nice to someone today.
Great post, I always try to be as nice as possible. I think being nice can move you so much further in life than if you let your emotions control you. I really enjoyed reading, thanks for sharing!
Being kind is really something important that should be inculcated to people from very early ages, since the younger we begin to acquire this habit, then it will be easier to transmit it to the people around us. Be kind, we fill with positive energy and this is transmitted to other people, the same happens when we are barking with someone, then if life is a circle, it is preferable to create good energy. Very nice post!
I agree with you sister @jeezzle "the science of being nice", as there is a law of causality.
I'm a man but thank you.
sorry brother @jeezzle
From now on, I will call you my brother ;)
You basically right. But I've met people who will later tell me "you are such a nice person, but you look so mean at face value" this use to disturb me a lot then one day I told myself that a true friend will want to really know me not judge me from my facial expression.
So true! OMG great post. Just be nice!!!
I think that sometimes mean people can eventually be nicer that nice people. Not always, but sometimes nice people just pretend to be nice and mean people are taugh, but it can as well turn in to positive. I had so many experiences where I eventually got along very well with mean people, perhaps because they were honest. And didn’t get along with nice people because eventually I found out they were fake.
Well you have to be careful with people that wear fake emotions on the surface. I definitely know what you mean though........sometimes a person that appears mean is actually just jaded and actually is a good person on the inside.
Wooow, that was beautiful @jeezzle. I agree totally with you when you say that being nice is not a trait. I believe that, people can actually learn to be nice . Human beings, I believe are generally nice in nature, but sometimes, our environment may affect the way we respond to things and other people. If a person was brought up in a nice, caring and loving family, chances are, they are most likely going to be nice people. But as I said, we can learn to be nice. Thanks for sharing.
Our environment definitely affects us.
You don't have to let your environment completely control you though. Being nice is definitely something that can be learned.
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Another great observation! I've noticed the same thing. I guess it's something people in the service industry would tend to notice. I've also thought this...being angry all of the time is exhausting. I'm serious. It drains your energy and makes you more irritable. Then, it just becomes a vicious cycle.
It's true..... we notice interactions between people all day long. It's easy to tell nice people from mean people when you get to see people talk to each other all day.
Being nice and being happy will also keep you healthy. Thanks for the resteem.
i am 100% with this.
it's the golden rule. the law of attraction.
whether you are positive or negative, you attract the same.
Yeah !! The one who genuinely appreciates or involve in others is nice person and one who doesn’t is not nice :)
This is the basic principal
A negative mind can't bring positive outcome. Nice post @jeezzle.
That's definitely true.
Kindness must be inculcated and practiced. It is always rewarding to read you.
Once you do it well enough you may not even have to try; sometimes I'm polite out of reflex: Opening doors, saying "Bless you", smiling with eye contact (probably the biggest one)..
I work at a restaurant so opening doors has become second nature to me.
It's a great post , great article
I agree with you sister @jeezzle "the science of being nice", as there is a law of causality.