@earnest I don't know people like you, because I don't know you. I can draw certain assumptions based on your manner of speaking. But it doesn't mean that I know anything about you. Therefore since I have your audience and attention, it makes a whole lot more sense to just ask you directly.

You could come out and say whatever it is you're trying to say, but I'm not able to divine your intent. Why is that?

We both know that without constructive dialog, this conversation becomes a pointless waste of time for both of us. I can't think of a single reason you would want to waste either my time or yours.

So what is it you seek?
What can I do to help you attain it, that you cannot already do for yourself?