Hello Steemit Friends,
As children we were taught that "Yes" is a positive word and "No" is a negative word. When parents tempt to teach us, they expect a yes response to build and shape us as a well-rounded adult. When we grow up though, these two word not necessary represents its definition that direct. Circumstances and situations are more complex and answers we give can shift our lives to varieties directions. It is important that we understand what we are choosing and that we don't live forever but we live with the choices we make.
Yes and no may be two simple English words but they generate a vast array of mind-boggling complexities when they are incorrectly used. Imagine you are invited somewhere you do not feel like attending. In the inside, you are screaming no but you are trying not to offend others, so you say yes!.... Living life like this can be very draining
When it comes to saying Yes or No, Here are a few things that you should consider !
Know you cannot please everyone
It is impossible to please everyone Know where to draw the line because saying yes all the time can be draining. In addition to this, constantly saying yes may make people take advantage of you.
Know what you are saying yes to
Saying no automatically means saying yes or other opportunities. Therefore, it is important to know what you are consenting to.
Avoid details
When saying no, it is always best to keep your answer short and simple. Too many explanations may allow someone else to easily convince you otherwise.
Leave Some Room
Say maybe or possibly if you need time to think in circumstances that allows you to . Give yourself that space of being direct. Just remember to be clear and not misinterpreted.
Offer an alternative
Although you may not be of help, you could always offer suggestions. Finding other ways that the task could be done is the best way to go about it.
The good news is that the goods in life do not depend on you saying yes to everything. Just remember to say yes to your dreams, passions and what you want to achieve. Spend time around people who stimulate and challenge you.
As For Saying "Yes" by signing up on Steemit !!
Is another big step you have taken. What comes next is what you make of it !!. You are an early bird as this platform have not even reached 500,000 accounts yet. Do you see the potential growth ?!! As of June 2017, 51% of the world's population is on internet. That's approximately 4 billion potentials.
My dad was a stock market investor and one thing i remembered he told me clearly that the art of investment is that you want to find "Something Sexy", which means a good platform, with potential growth and an exciting future. When you find that, make sure you be a part of it. If it's good as you're confident that it is, people will realize that it's a "Hottie" and everyone will want a piece of it.
Steemit Is fineeeeeeee Alright !!! ;)
Good News is that we are in at the just the beginning !, And oh the sky is just the start !!!
Here's a good old Kanye West song !! On our journey there
I hope You enjoy this post guys
I always deeply appreciate your comments, upvotes and share.
Much Love, Suzana
Totally agree with you and indeed I've taken into account some of the things u said here. And maybe try some of ur methods. :) One thing I've learnt is that you're right, we can't please everyine
For myself, I really always stayed in the "maybe" zone which ended up as a no. As i realized later on that if it was important, i should have just been straight up with the person. Expectations leads to disappointment !. Lesson learned
Someone once told me, if your heart has a second thought, go for the second thought. It's probably more important or what you really want. You can try this method. :D haha
Pleasing everyone is quite tricky, if not impossible to do at times. I find that you get some piece of mind in not concerning yourself with other peoples opinions of you or your actions. Certainly you can hear what other people think, and take action if its something which adds value to you life. But don't take others opinions to heart, just smile and say thanks!
That's true. Agree to disagree also.
Say yes to sexy Steem or I say nah to you.
lol. It is quite strange how we are taught such a negative connotation of the word "no", but then saying no is a really good thing sometimes.
Like when someone asks you if you wanna smoke some crack. GREAT time to say "nah".
Ya gifs are killin it btdubs
Omg, Your example is hilarious !! just made me laugh so hard !! Thank you for your lovely comment. Means a lot in a time filled with people only looking out to hunt down others. As a child it makes sense doesn't it that it sounds not so good. Amazing how things can be so different when we grow up :)
Thank YOU. No kidding, so awful. I just read a post about a toddler who was forced to hunt a 24 year old man in his backyard. Maybe i'm a horrible person(I hope just weird) but I searched for it and when I found the video, I couldn't stop myself; I had to watch. here's the link....
Yes..Saying 'NO' to the things you are uncomfortable with or not among your priorities, in a polite way is a very difficult task. But it's very important that we develop that skill if we want to live our life to our own satisfaction.
I grew up in an Asian culture which is very common to just say "YES". In some situations, with some individuals, promises are broken all the time. This makes no sense. But some rather sound polite than be polite. Thank you for your comment :)
brilliant work dear.. this is really awesome.. amazing.. stay blessed.. i upvoted..
Thank you so much <3
you are always welcome dear.. and keep it up.. best of Luck
i heard a quote once that the best way to parent children is to bring them up not train them, what this is really saying is that they should be allowed to develop their own mind.
I agree. But dont parents try their best to build their child up with positives ? And of course, they choose what they want to become with out force.
If only it was that easy to say "NO" when we mean it.
Thanks for posting!
i feel blessed to have seen that keyboard express.. what a graphic!.. upvoted pal :]
Agreed!
Saddens me a little though to see that Suzana had not replied to anyone in her last 3 posts now.
Also, the images are never sourced, and the content looks very regurgitated.
Ah well, back to the grind!
i can feel your heart through this keyboard.. great to meet you abh12345
Thank you @cnts , you too.
Yes it is a little disheartening. There are some really good replies on the previous posts, where people have taken maybe 30 minutes of their day to respond. I feel sorry for them.
Take care on your quest @cnts :)
Wow!! Very quickly to judge ! Well Thank you for your comments anyways. Means a lot that you have taken your time to visit my post and comment on it. Yes i have been occupied on replying messages these pass few days. sometimes i do not answer right the way. I didn't know there was a rule to answer with in hours. When i do have time, i make sure i answer them. I just graduated from university and left my job. I am now in searching for new opportunities and in an instability mode. Perhaps my creativity level have dropped recently. Sorry if you think my posts are not what you expected. I am here to learn and grow just like everyone else. Maybe personal things are not discussed on here!. On the sourcing my gif., I apologize and totally agree, I will fix on that. .. Thank you again :)
Dear Suzana
Thank you for your reply. I understand that people have a private life and this must be a priority over Steemit for sure.
However, I think it is right that before a new post is created, the previous works' relevant and constructive comments should be replied to. This is key for many users of the platform to build a following and grow, and so popular users like yourself should be leading by example, or else the platform will suffer.
I apologize for my hasty remarks, they were not made to offend, just to relay what I have seen.
Have a great day, and I hope you find success in a new role.
Asher
No ohh !! sorry are you sad okkkk yes , now i am sad ..... that really creates problems.
Yes, it is always hard to say Nah.. But we should be doing it more cause the society now a days always teaches we must always say Yah try to do it before say no... We won' regret the things we had try unless we always say NAH.
Nice post any way.
Hello @suerisue
I must say i really avoid this part of impressing people and leaving my self in a very disturbing state,impressing people and saying no to your own opinion or mind can be so depressing.
This deserves some attention. Upvoted and resteemed...
Thank you :)
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We are living in a world where we we can follow plenty of "yes". most important is to pick a few and say a big "YES".. same applies with no / NO . There are plenty of opportunities, (both good and bad ones) the problem is not to get drowned in them.
good point.