Personally, I've seen things in chat that make me skeptical about fyrsts story in this specific instance and his backstory generally. However, it is not my place to judge.
To be completely rational and impartial about it, we have 2 people with no reason to lie (at least none that makes sense to me), so the judgment of credibility is very subjective. That said, the burden of proof should fall on fyrst. Heidi obviously cannot prove a negative.
The point of the above post was that, if Heidi is telling the truth, that changes the equation very much. Because there's a big difference between him overreacting to her flaking on their appointment, and him making up an appointment out of thin air, then overreacting to her flaking on the made up appointment.
The second situation, if true, speaks to a certain level of psychological instability that gives me pause, especially when hes attempting to entice people to meet him in a foriegn country.
If you knew what I know, you wouldn't even question the veracity of her story. I think people have forgotton my introduction post, "I am an information addict."
Truth be told, i think by the time i came to steemit you were already just doing SA posts. I just went back and read your intro post and your early ones and they were really good. I was much more impressed than I expected to be.
Sociopaths rely on the fact that normal people are not so brazen about lying. Most people wouldn't contemplate lying so brazenly and casually, so they don't imagine others doing the same. This benefit of the doubt is what allows sociopaths to be superficially charming, when you don't care about the non-immediate consequences of what you're saying, you can impress people much more easily.
"They have no reason to lie" is faulty thinking when you're dealing with someone you don't know quite well whom you can trust implicitly. Anyone else who makes accusations, you should expect evidence. Benefit of the doubt should not extend to impugning others.
As i said immediately after the sentence, the burden of proof is on fyrst. Because it would be unreasonable to ask heidi to prove a negative.
The sociopath thing could apply to either one. Im not saying either one is or isnt, but its he said she said, and I don't know him or her.