Reality Check

Hello everyone, and welcome back to my post about dating and other similar fun topics ;)

Today we are going to talk about how men and women have different expectations towards each other.

Girls often complain, “Why don’t men approach me?”, or “Why I don’t get invited out by men?” First of all, men hate desperate/unhappy/miserable with life women. If you as a woman go on with your life thinking that you have all these problems- poor me, life is so hard etc, and one day some magical prince will appear and solve all of them, and will sweep you off your feet, you’re highly delusional. Why does any man need that? If there are women out there who are happy and positive about life.

If a woman is always tensed and stressed out about her living/work/status situation she is not very desirable to a man. Men have their own problems as well, they don’t want to add new ones, especially on the early stages of dating.

Inner beauty is very important but let’s be real most men love with their eyes. Women need to be attractive. You don’t need to look like a model but you need to take care of yourself. Women who lay on their couch with 100 kg weight and say that a guy should love her for her inner beauty, lol I’m sorry but it will take him a while to get through all those kg into your inner beauty. Lift your butt off that couch! When you go out try to look good, and be in a good mood, project that confidence.

Often you would see a 40 year old woman that has very high expectations from a man. Usually they want someone attractive, over 6 feet tall, rich and successful, loyal, kind and generous. These women never been married and have a hard time finding the right man, or holding on to one. So I ask them, What do you do with yourself or your life to attract that kind of men? Most of them, are die hard convinced that this kind of man will love them for who they are. BUT WHY WOULD HE?

Women get attracted to certain qualities in a man. Surprise- it goes both ways. Men get attracted to certain qualities in a woman. If you just sit on your couch, overweight, watching Keeping Up With The Kardashians, and whine about lack of quality men, get a REALITY CHECK, and realize that you’ll be waiting forever. Maybe it’s better to get a cat as a companion, and after that cat dies get another cat, and then another cat, after this one dies you’ll be pretty much done as well.

Unrealistic expectations go both ways, don’t think it’s just ladies who have ridiculously high expectations sometimes.

Often I hear from guys that they want a beautiful, smart, fit, educated, independent, fun, loyal, well groomed, not materialistic girlfriend, yet these men are not even close that level themselves. So when a woman who is like that or close to that rejects them because they don’t do anything with their lives, and have zero ambitions, they cry that these women are materialistic. JUST LOL :D

I’m sorry but most women are attracted to men on their level and higher, and that's just simple science. It doesn’t mean they’re solely materialistic.

So the most important advice I can give is LOVE YOURSELF, if you don’t love yourself how do you expect others to love you. You cannot escape yourself or try to find a person to fill in that empty void. You need to be happy about yourself and balanced, then you can find a person to add something extra to your life, and you add something to theirs as well.

So before complaining that you are all alone and don’t have the right partner, ask yourself if you’re really trying to work on yourself and most importantly are you willing to compromise?

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