This is the whole truth Sir.
Our ideology as regards what a relationship should be has changed a lot. It's hard to see men who look out for the real thing before getting into relationships. We base our judgements on the periphery, but this cannot take you long before you get tired of it.
The qualities of Godliness, capacity to build are very important.
But then, you find out that most ladies lack these qualities, even in our church. My question now is : How then can we easily see these qualities amidst all the pretence we get from our supposedly churchy ladies?
There is no easy answer to your question sir.
But first of all, YOU ATTRACT WHO YOU ARE.. So just be who you want to attract, the pretense issues will sort itself out.
Secondly, seek friendship. Good friends easily become lovers. So when you seek friendship, the person doesnt have need to pretend cos you ain't looking for anything per se.. So you can make your decisions based on findings.
I hope my answer helped you a bit.