The problem with "just being yourself" is it is terrible advice designed to make you fail.
How long have men been getting (and, sadly, listening to) the advice from women in the dating world to "just be yourself"? Ever try it? Lol. Social interactions are a complex web of deceptions. Anyone telling you to be yourself wants (consciously or subconsciously) the gamer theoretical advantage of getting to not be themself while you are.
"Just be yourself" means "lower your standards to the point where they are already met, blame yourself for nothing, be willing to be happy with no growth." At least it does in practice, most of the time.
Not a great life philosophy. "Be better," is a much better one.
well, i was saying becoming yourself, its always a work in progress of betterment but striving to be perfect is giving up on something that just doesn't exist...
we must continuously evolve and get better but we will never be perfect
I agree with your thoughts. Didn't mean to seem like I was in disagreement, I just like to get specific with language.
+lexiconical That psychoanalytical part of us that subliminally seeks to help people reach higher than self, is often misunderstood. It does no good to apologize. Those seeking to be better will get it without offense. Those who need it most will seek to defend the work they need to do.
+felander I so agree that perfection is the enemy of peace, and a form of arrogance believing that the possibility could ever really exist. Many people never complete a task, or start one for that matter; because, the old demon Perfectionism lassos them into believing they can and will never be good enough.
To both of you,
Peace!
Perfect: the enemy of pretty good.
Ha! So truth! I do believe pretty good and good enough are akin to each other.