I’LL SAY IT’S NOT LOVE, IT’S LUST AT FIRST SIGHT

in #steambees7 years ago

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Times without number we have deep feelings of tender affection.
Times without number, we wonder if it’s love we feel.
Maybe it’s what you’re attracted to,
I’ll take that again. Maybe it’s what you’re lustful(attracted to) after.
I don’t mean to judge, I’m a man, I get lust too.
The type of lady I like determines the exact same person I’ll be attracted to. Failure to see this qualities in the persons i meet is a turn off for me, you can relate to this. Except you don’t have specifications for women you’re attracted to.

Let’s say you like your lady light skinned, voluptuous and with height say 5’7 and above. One might like he’s dark and maybe shorter than the above mentioned height. Whatever specifications it is. The sight of ladies without similar qualities might be a turn off, but the sight of ladies with the exact qualities you like will cause a jiggle in your tummy. Even when you don’t know if anything about her might turn you off. Ascent can be a complete turn off for a man who likes to keep it classy.

So this lady is at the bar, or is waiting for the same flight with you and you just can’t wait to start a conversation. You get talking and it appears she’s all you want in a woman maybe you’re the player or you’re that one person looking for love. Already you’re so excited that this might go on so well. Just then you exchange numbers and all.
Day one conversation ends with goodnight and night pleasantries.
Day two might just end the same way or a little bit spiced up.
Fast Forward to day 11, there’s already a pet name or two attached to this one stranger form 11days back. Would you say at this point you fell in love at first sight no matter how compartible you two have gotten already?
I think it’s LUST but if nortured can grow into LOVE.
I’ll say it’s lust, not because you have lustful intentions but because the features governing the type of ladies and personalities you’re attracted to circles around why you are with this person. If it’s love at first sight you won’t know just why you love this person. You can’t explain why you love this person but you love them. Anything they do gets to you. It applies for the feminine gender two. You’ll adore and worship this person even when persons that influence your life, I mean friends don’t seem to like this person much. There’s no height of hatred that can turn you away, if you get hurt by this one person you’ll always believe it’ll heal. Now that’s Love, yes it is. It’s unconditional.
You just can’t seem to explain why you do the things you do even after you do them and they sometimes are wrong. You see yourself lifeless without this one person.
Truth is this, love can hurt.
It’ll torture you to know that the one person you can die for can’t do the same.
It could be sad that sometimes you’re sharing the one person your heart loves with their ex-partner or an old lover of theirs but you don’t seem to mind because nothing really matters as far as they make up a small part of you.
Love, is a strong word and posses a strong feeling.
If you ever feel the willingness to let the one person you say you love go, then it’s not love you feel.
If you ever get hurt, cheated on,abused,used and deceived for this one course and all you feel it’ll get better, then you know the depth of what you feel.
For an introvert, it’s different. The only one person they’ve learnt to love is themselves so they love to spend time with themselves by themselves irrespective of how nerdy that may be.
Most loud people often times are lonely.
Most people who talk and analyze and even criticize other people’s relationships wish they had something firm as what those people share.
But the key is TRUST. Any friendship or form of friendship can stand the test if built on the basis of trust. The basis of trust when both parties make effort towards not ruining what the have. With the idea that the cherish what they have and would have it remain unbroken whatever might be.
Ladies often say ”All men cheat, men are the same”
and
Men feel “Women are snakes”
They might be some truth to what both parties have thought of each other.
From my observation, I’ll speak for men and women.
Men cheat yes I agree with you, but most men feel sorry when lust leads them to ruining a relationship.
The flesh of man is lustful, most men don’t willingly perform this act. That’s why they’ll go out of their will to hide it from the one woman the love.
The other half of men who cheat are just undisciplined persons whom marriage is not meant for. There’s no justification whatsoever to why a man should disobey his vow to his one true lover, but forgiveness is necessary and total abstinence on the path of the man after being forgiven is adviced too.

Now, for women.
There’s some truth to the snake like behaviour women are accused of as women have powers.
A case scenario is, you see your woman with another man, very few men will storm in and introduce themselves as the husband or boyfriend but women will always introduce themselves to indicate ownership if they ever saw their man with another woman.
Let’s say your woman is cheating and doesn’t want you to know. The way she kisses or makes love to you might not change one bit, but men always are susceptible and apologse if accusations lead to the truth. A woman could keep denying if there was no proof and a man that’s just too in love my crawl begging for accusing his Lady wrongly. Now that’s a snake not swallowing 36 million but hoarding the truth.
Whatever we do for the sake of love, it’s right to preserve it if we cherish it.

Men, don’t let a woman cry.

Women, don’t let a good man go.

I’ll break the keypad at this point.
LOVE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING.
STAY OUT OF LUST.