Years ago, as mediator in a conflict between two individuals, i found that the more there was request for rapproachement, the situation was only getting out of hand.
Negotiation didn't seem to work. My intervention didn't work, either. Finally, i requested them to spend some time in silence and reflect on just one question: 'How have i caused this situation to arise?' This did not give any room for blaming the other. The answer had to come from within. In just 15 minutes, the two opponents apologised to each other.
Deep down, every one of us knows why and how conflicts arise, through omission or commission. The problem is, no one wants to admit to the truth; it seems easier to simply pit ourselves against others: Us versus Them. It's a world of our own creation where we don't take responsibility for causing unpleasant situations. The media is full of such news reportage.
Jesus Christ said: 'Love your enemies'. Peace can come about only if one truly understands, through deep listening, the pain and hurt of the enemy. It is love and forgiveness that bring about understanding and peace. Violence begets more violence.
Often our pride and ego come in the way of our asking for forgiveness, despite knowing that we are in the wrong. We hold onto our perceptions and seek more and more justifications to buttress our stand. We fear that we would no longer command respect and dignity if we admit to our mistakes. The truth is that people respect those who have the humility to acknowledge the fact that they are in the wrong.
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Wow....sensational post. Thank you for sharing it @marketsons
It is amazing what a little humility can do in our lives. While taking responsibility seems like the ego it is, in fact, our true selves. The ego wants to fight and be right. The true self just wants to connect...to all their is...
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