Yes, I hear you and I know this feeling very well. It's good to know, that these feelings are not yours and what you are feeling, you are healing (out of the collective). I have already written one article about narcissists and empaths, but since this topic is mostly misunderstood, I will soon write about this in more detail.
It's not really about setting borders etc - there are totally different ways to handle this in the new paradigm. Thanks and stay tuned for more on this topic. Blessings! 🙏