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Hi resilient,

Yesterday unfortunately my uncle died, with this I have found the perfect moment to write again and put my thoughts and emotions in order.

Managing grief is difficult, but necessary. Both the pain and the grief we feel are the resistance to accept a change we do not want. Our brain resists accepting a result when it is not what we want. It is his way of always pushing us towards the search for positive results or those that favor us and the aversion to those he classifies as negative.

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If we stop to think, really the pain that we feel when someone leaves is a feeling that is born of the ego. I can not be with him anymore, I can not enjoy him anymore, I will not have his company anymore ...
Born from a selfish thought, it may seem hard to see him in this way, but I really think that's the way it is.

Normally it is often said that time cures everything, particularly I do not agree. But just enough to sit down to wait and the pain we felt would pass alone. However, many people drag it a long period without managing to overcome it.

What time does give you is perspective, a new perspective where you can analyze the results and consequences of the loss. In this way it is easier to accept them and even overcome them.

In this sense, the basic pillar is to accept that the past can not be changed. Only the interpretation that we give to events. From this interpretation come the different thresholds of pain felt by people.
There are close people who wear it better and others worse, the main difference from my point of view comes only from the interpretation they give to what happened.

As rational human beings, we have the power to modify our interpretations to shape our life experience. Do not waste it, it is a power of incalculable value.

A big hug.

Be happy!