Today my heart hurts - My thoughts only.

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Due to having to change visiting times and the times clashing, I’m unable to see my daughter this week.

I look forward to seeing my daughter every week.

My heart hurts because of the injustice of this situation. My daughter should never have been taken from me (by the other parent).

The other parent has been able to manipulate this court system to continue his abuse - from the NZ Police to the Ministry for Children (local child trafficking service), the lawyers, and the judges.

How? Simply, because he’s white.

Being white has currency in this country - New Zealand. This has been said many times by several pākeha people themselves.

Some are blind to this white privilege and some know this and use it against others to their advantage. The other parent is the latter.

I’m not sure where I’m going with this post, I just needed to vent today and started journaling as I do. This cause, He Ngaakau Titikaha was born from all my experiences past and ongoing with the family court system and the continued abuse from the other parent.

Is it personal, yes. Do others resonate? Yes. My situation isn’t unique - it’s just that I’ve chosen to be public about it because the other parent is counting on me being quiet so he can continue his onslaught quietly without consequences (he has a public image to uphold).

The court system talks about the “best interests of the child”... there’s nothing in this current situation that’s best for my daughter at all.

Please note: I’m ok, I just needed to vent and I have practices in place for self-care. Journaling is one of them - if you need to vent a little, go ahead in the comments, I’m all “ears”.