Thank you. I am hoping to shine light on some pretty dark stuff and hope it helps a few people. :)

Also, very valid question, I don't think hardcore fantasies are necessarily a bad thing. I just know that for me personally it made me think of real abuse and trauma and it was an obstacle in me being able to overcome that stuff. I think for people who were not ever abused it can be perfectly healthy to play out dark fantasies. It's all about what the individual in comfortable and happy with. If you have these fantasies and they are not hurting you psychologically or making you sad and you are simply enjoying them and getting off sexually then I see no reason to try to get rid of them. :) A lot of people have dark sexual fantasies, even those who were not abused but mine were involving things from my abuse and honestly making me more sad than anything.