You want to pop harder. Scream louder. You want the shakes, the shits, that emptying-filling feeling of losing it all. And you want it more than once in a lifetime. Welcome to novelty.
Your brain is possibly your most potent sex organ and often the one in which you have the least control. Psychosomatic body dysmorphism aside (thinking you are uglier than you are), there are plenty of things to consider while having sex whether you want to or not. I won't list them. That's the last kind of propaganda you need. Psychology Today published a fun piece summarizing research into sexual distraction. They found people tend to spectate their own activities, even worrying about emotional outcomes of the sex itself (Gueren, 2011). What a waste. A counselor might suggest remaining calm when anxiety hits. I would venture that won't work for most people else we wouldn't be on track for an $18 billion market in anxiety and depression treatment (PRN Newswire, 2017).
Volume is Pleasure
To start, Women Squirt Too. Volume may be more important for men, though. PEVR (Perceived Ejaculate Volume Reduction) is one of those anxiety-causing, pleasure-reducing, sensations contributing to erectile dysfunction in men. Just so happens that men are pretty objective about their loads. When they perceive less, there is less (Corona, et al., 2011). Not counting the subjective pleasure of erupting from your private parts (me, not you necessarily), increasing ejaculate volume may increase the perception of a better orgasm. If that's how you remember it, then it's gotta be true, right? Easiest way to increase volume - NOVELTY! Turns out, just by seeing a new face in porn, men will pop a bigger load (Joseph, Sharma, Agarwal, & Sirot, 2015). Whether women will squirt a little further is yet to studied.
Favorite Finisher: Your Friend
Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) is always an option. Since WWII and the days of pilots sharing their wives in the event they die in the sky, a significant portion of long-term relationships openly agreed to have more than one romantic partner. If you're in the twenty percent of men or five percent of women up for sharing, go for it. If not, novelty is going to take some work.
Enter porn, role-reversal, and group masturbation. Ever had an anal orgasm? Ever given one? With or without a nice enema beforehand? Exploring different paths to orgasm is a great way to discover mind-blowing orgasms. Nothing works the same twice, though. Novelty is only novel when you don't really remember the last time.
Let's get real for a second. If you're an average American eating a SAD (Standard American Diet), anal is a problem. Feels great. Messy as hell. Better be prepared for breaks, sex on the toilet, and have a couple condoms and a trashcan nearby (they work on the dildos too). Look into cleaning that out beforehand. See enema. Might even save you from colon cancer (WW., et al., 2002). Enemas are dangerous, though. People have died perforating the colon or generating too much pressure in the lower intestine. For the less adventurous and monstrously homophobic, group masturbation can be fun or terribly awkward. Frankly, it might be easier for partners finish a novel session with their significant other than go all the way and splash a little 'a that extra on their leg. Here's my option. Nearly get there on your own. Maybe in a different room or bathroom off the master. Do it to whatever you like. Something that caught your eye. A printout of your favorite star or a hot little porn thing. Watch hentai and imagine cumming harder than humanly possible. Whatever suits you. Then find your partner and finish hard. You'll get the benefit of an edge (unstudied, see below) and prolonged stimulation for longer loading of those goodie fluids into the urethra before unloading.
Works Cited
Corona, G., V., B., Gacci, M., Sforza, A., Forti, G., Mannucci, E., & M., M. (2011, May/June). Response: Subjective Perception of Ejaculate Volume Reflects Objective Changes in Ejaculate Volume. Journal of Andrology, 32(3).
Gueren, C. (2011, September 6). SexL Sexual Distraction. Retrieved from Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201109/sex-sexual-distraction
Joseph, P., Sharma, R., Agarwal, A., & Sirot, L. (2015). Men Ejaculate Larger Volumes of Semen, More Motile Sperm, and More Quickly when Exposed to Images of Novel Women. Evolutionary Psychological Science, 1(4), 195-200.
PRN Newswire. (2017, January 23). Anxiety Disorders & Depression Treatment Market Worth $18.3 Billion by 2025: Grand View Research, INC. Retrieved from PRN Newswire: https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/anxiety-disorders--depression-treatment-market-worth-183-billion-by-2025-grand-view-research-inc-611496885.html
WW., H., Prustomersky, S., Delbanco, E., Uhi, M., Scharf, G., Turesky, R., . . . Schulte-Hermann, R. (2002, May 2002). Enhancement of the chemoprotective enzymes glucuronosyl transferase and gluthione transferase in specific organs of the rat by the coffee components Kahweol and cafestol. Archives of Toxicology, 209-217.