I suggest there are two victims in this situation. All families go through life's turmoils. One victim is the father, simply because he doesn't know how to properly deal with things. One victim is the daughter, who had to watch this happen. Out of the two of them, I think the daughter will be okay. After all, she deliberately allowed 16 years to pass without seeing her father. The father on the other hand, feels cheated, and needs counselling, and I doubt he will get any.
Rather than go out this way (hospital bed, diapers, wishing he dies), he would have done better to read my post that talks about karma:
His cringing and hatred he carried with him towards his daughter brought him exactly where he needed to end up. He got what he deserved by earning a lot of bad karma. You think he would have discovered it?
yes. I too have thought a lot on this topic. A parent has an almost sacred duty not to destroy those who he or she creates. This is self-murder, actually. When we look at the world, we must acknowledge that a big percentage of it is composed of damaged souls. How we make a world worth living in is empathy. Without empathy, we get the current status quo, which is terrible on many levels.
I struggle with self-love and acceptance like many people. But, in order to get that resolved, I must have financial independence so that I am free to create and exist within my talents. I must have financial freedom. I do believe in the hierarchy of needs, but I also know that sociopathy exists within our species. There is no cure for sociopathy, since the sociopaths never see anything wrong with them. Much of our culture is based on a sociopathic element. After so much exposure, the culture at large begins to think that such behavior is normal. Abuse becomes systematic, normalized. The sheer number of kids who are neglected or abused by their parents in America is staggering. I've witnessed this in my own communities.
We all must take a look at ourselves and decide what kind of life we want. If we are damaged (most of us), we have to endure the long and painful process of de-programming our minds. Karma doesn't mean shit when you're in pain, suffering, wilting. I know this pretty intimately. Only radical desire for truth and then a fierce pursuit of self-love will lead you to EVEN WANTING TO DO KARMIC STUFF.
Dark times are receding, but I will never forget what it's like. I have committed myself to helping people, because that is the world I want. People have helped me recently and I've been a bit lucky. I want to pass that luck on, and compound the feelings of progress.
Good article on Karma....
I agree when you say we have to de-program our minds, it is a very long process, often a continuing effort throughout our entire life. Just to clarify how I personally feel, karma isn't something that is strived for.. it happens naturally. If your goal for helping people is to gain karma, you've already failed. If your goal is to geniunely help people, because that's really the right thing to do.. the byproduct is good karma. :)
Good job. I look forward to reading more from you and your secret sharers..
Always by-product.
Thanks for your feedback 🎂