Fulfill high expectations, obtain the sought-after recognition at any price, get where they told us we had to get there without being our own dreams, punish ourselves excessively and mistreat us when we made a mistake, put an excessive focus on the results without enjoying life, without even knowing if we will have the opportunity to see them and without counting that friends, couples and time have been lost in the middle is harmful. Obsessing with perfection is like wanting to run in the sea or swim in the desert.
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Excellence leads you to always go for more. Bearer of a good attitude and outstanding excellence will make you reach and always climb a step more, in everything you do. Excellence is that you break your record, that you surpass yourself. Excellence is to go for more, if you are wrong to seek improvement and if you are well seek to be better.
Excellence is asking yourself, How can I be better dad? How can I be a better husband than I am today? How can I be a better manager, a better employee, a better boss, friend? When you break your own record, you are moving in excellence.
David said: "And even this, O God, has seemed to you little, for you have spoken of the house of your servant for farther, and you have looked upon me as an excellent man, O Jehovah God."
Excellence is not doing things better than others: excellence is that you surpass yourself every day, is that you are the best version of yourself.
You have to conquer the desire to continue. Open yourself to changes, to the new, to what is to come. Choose an attitude of excellence. And never postpone your dreams! Reach the big projects that lie ahead and do not stop.
Transform your mind every day. Think of solutions and do not complicate, or complicate others for the desire that everything is perfect. Be simple Use the wisdom that is inside you. Give yourself the opportunity today not to be perfect and enjoy it.
Keep in mind that "we all make mistakes, the intelligent person learns from his own mistakes, the wise person learns from the mistakes of others".
You were designed for success and the road to it is paved with failures. Do not be afraid of failure, make it your ally, your best friend to reach the goal. May your difficulties challenge you to release all your potential, to release the best from you!
Excellence: is the ability to continuously improve and for that you need to be open to change and be flexible in the face of failure, accepting your own mistakes. Only by accepting them will you be able to reverse them.
Perfectionism: the perfectionist has several ideas in his head, several cognitions, several beliefs that activate the perfectionist behavior:
"If I do it perfectly, they will love me" the perfectionist is dependent on the opinion of others. Look at her body and ask: "How do I look?"
If you make a mistake this is catastrophic. He does not play to win, he plays so as not to lose (the difference is motivation, he does not enjoy the game). His obsession does not allow him to enjoy his game) the great fear and the great motivator is not to win but to avoid disaster. As he has extreme thoughts: «I am pretty or I am ugly, I can or can not» lives in emotional extremes.
You should always do things very well: "you will be what you should be or you will not be anything". Live constantly analyzing what she does (the girls who put on makeup and are three hours in front of the mirror, because they live reviewing and that makes the perfectionists not serve to do many things, because they postpone, they can not start, they say: "I still need to improve a little bit ».
Is perfectionism negative or not?
The key what is? Whether we enjoy it or not. if there is anguish it is negative, but it is positive. You have to enjoy the journey, the effort, is to play to win, negative perfectionism is afraid of failure. The people who allow the error is very positive because it has to do with the ability to overcome, to keep growing while the other stagnates, is paralyzed.
"By faith Abel offered God more excellent sacrifice than Cain." Faith leads you to offer the best you have to give. The feeling of dissatisfaction, when it is a positive emotion, usually gives us the motivation and energy necessary to persevere despite the obstacles. It is that tingling that keeps us moving and leads us to solve problems and find solutions. The goal of dissatisfaction must be an emotional feeling with a future to improve, and not to sicken our lives looking for perfection ".
We are not perfect but we can look for excellence. God is an expert in finding people who look to excellence in everything they do.
Good reflection @marialara.