There must be defined boundary set. A place beyond which the answer is "no" and must always remain "no".

I have managed to be kind and generous to people varied in race and origin. Very recently even. I consider myself as 'fair'.

I was asked recently why I would refuse to give a lift to a staff member right into the township where he stayed.

I flatly refused. It is too dangerous. This guy is afraid of walking there by himself because the criminals of his own race will rob him.

For me to drive into an area I am not welcome I may be attacked on zero grounds and afterwards, when officials ask questions over my cold hard corpse the question will be: "But what was he doing in this neighborhood?" It would be my own fault in other words.

If refusing to give that lift into a black settlement is considered racist then my survival dictates to me that I should be racist then...