is your point of view any different from a parent saying to an infant, I will shield you from all of the pain of falling and failing as you try to grow and walk and talk and ride a bike and drive a car on your way to becoming an adult?
sometimes love is not saying to an infant "give up - learning to walk is too hard. it's not worth it!"
it doesn't mean I didn't shed a tear when my kids and now my grandkids come and show me their skinned knees from falling off the bike as they learned to ride. yes I cared and yes I loved them - I cared and loved them enough to run beside them and support them as they learned to ride a bike - but - there comes a time when I must step back and let them go, if they are to learn how to become better bike riders, to avoid future spills and skinned knees.