I have long thought what you say here but its nice to read your well written, and concise thoughts on the matter.
We have a baby with a very scary illness and when she was in the womb I felt drawn to trust Gods knowledge of her, and in his love, I felt assure he would not assign a burden she was unable to bear.
That he, having known her before she existed, was in a position to declare her as capable of bearing the burdens unique to her little life. That gave me great encouragement.
This was a pivotal encouragement since the devil had me worried about her suffering and nearly convinced me her suffering should be ended...
Thank God he gave my wife and I wisdom to share our hearts and thank God for the prayers and support God gave us through that terrifying time.
Today we have a beautiful baby girl, Lumina, which means: "a portion of light from the source of light".
Psalm 139:16-17
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts,[a] God!