RE: When you want what others have - A QCK session

Forgot to reply to your reply last time, I just meant to its nice to get more details about these situations so we can get a more full picture. I think you have a lot to offer the community. I don't know much about QCK, learning from you. I do similar work for people but my work is very informal and entirely intuitive, no name for it, really....

This post was a little clearer an the last one but I want to hear more! Specifics make it much more interesting and helpful! Sorry to keep repeating myself.

I was once like the person you describe except rather than saying I wanted to feel connected with myself, I would say I was looking for ways to escape the truth that I wasn't connected with myself, that I wasn't really "whole" in my own skin.

Did you have any ways to help him connect with himself?

ok I see what you mean. Still trying to find a balance between sharing my sessions and keeping it intriguing. In a way it's hard to really share everything or the finer details of what tests out in a session because it's always very specific information that pertains to the individual themselves, which might not be all that interesting to read for any other person reading my posts as they wouldn't so much be able to relate to the information. I'll share the specifics that tested out in the session the post was about and I think you'll find that it is just a lot of information, and too specific, to share in a blog post.

The more specific information that tested out for this person was that first of all there were things about his own mind's "programming" which he was "projecting" onto this idea/image he had in his mind of "a relationship" and the image he was seeing with his eyes every time he saw a couple. Then we go deeper into "what" of his mind he is projecting, to specify the kind of programming he's working with.

A few points tested out there, which were:

beliefs (culturally/genetically copied) such as "I believe a wife should be a good housekeeper, mother to her children and partner to her husband"
These types of beliefs are on a very deep level in the mind, as those things we're not necessarily consciously aware of about ourselves but usually when brought to the fore, we will see it as these deep-rooted beliefs about "life" that we've come to copy from family/culture.
This belief contributed to this "image" he had built up around women in relationships, thinking and believing that only in a relationship with a female will he find experiences such as warmth, homeliness and security. In reality that is not who or what women are in fact, it's a genetically/culturally inherited belief which actually caused him to not find that warmth, homeliness and security within himself - thus only furthering the perceived "need" for that "relationship".
the "damsel" archetype, specifically working with the definition of a damsel being a female who needs to be protected by a strong male
This is also more subconscious/unconscious programming of an archaic design, as things we subconsciously copy from our parents, media, etc.
For this person this "damsel" archetype showed them that part of why the point of being in a relationship or developing a relationship had always been so challenging for him is because he had this "idea/image" in his mind which he believed he needed to live up to, as in needing to be the "strong male who protects the fragile/victimized female"
His own subconscious tendency to victimize himself. Basically what he was seeing in that image of "the female" in his mind, as being this victimized and fragile being, was his own tendency to go into experiences of feeling victimized and "weepy" (which was a word that specifically tested out in terms of what of himself he was seeing/projecting in the image of the female)

These were thus essentially the three points existent within his own mind and self, on various levels of himself, which were contributing to how he was seeing and perceiving "relationships" when seeing other people in relationships (while what he was really seeing was the "image" of "a relationship" his mind had created based on copied beliefs and archetypes), and to the conflict he'd always experienced in relation to developing and manifesting a relationship in his life - basically how he has been sabotaging himself through having this imaginary idea/perception of what a relationship is as what he feels he "needs to live up to".

This basically then shows him how literally everything about his entire experience around this issue had been created within and by his own mind through the mechanism of projection of deeper programming.

After all this information tested out we then look at solutions. Oftentimes just with QCK showing the person how they are creating the experience themselves in their own mind already allows the person to for a large part "step out of" the experience.
Other solutions are to further develop self-awareness in relation to how this whole program works in their mind, through for instance the tool of writing, which can be a great tool to develop understanding of self. Once that self-understanding is developed it is then just a matter of applying it in everyday life.

As you can also perhaps see, the solution isn't even really so much about "connecting" with himself or finding ways to connect with himself. That self-connection is already here, it's just all this programming in his mind sabotaging that connection, so the solution is to in a way just "drop" the programming and the first step in doing that is understanding how it is just programming and how it works and how it's thus not "real".