I love this! My parents have been married for 45 years and they are still completely in love with each other (it’s kind of gross but also kind of cute lol) and they always say that a relationship is not 50/50... it’s 100/100. You both have to give it your all. And sure, sometimes one will have to pull more weight than the other and vice-versa but overall you should both be putting in your all as often as possible.
My first husband evaporated to me after I got pregnant (I miscarried). When I gave him the news he barely looked at me and said “congrats, you’re gonna be a mom I guess,” like it was something I would be doing on my own. And I did, I went to doctors appointments and did blood work all on my own when the dr couldn’t find a heartbeat, because he didn’t have time. And I dealt with the loss on my own. He wasn’t there to support me or balance the energies with me and that was enough to end everything. Thank God my current fiancé is completely different. He’s by no means perfect, but we work at this relationship together and that’s all that really matters in the end. Balance.