The art of trust...
Do you remember the last time you fully trusted someone?
I bet it was when you were a child...
You trusted that you would be kept warm. Safe. Fed. Clothed.
We developed this sense of trust through familiarity. We came to recognize those who would provide for us. Because we couldn't do much of it ourselves. It's a survival mechanism that we are born with.
Let's fast forward to where you are now.
Who is it that we trust? How did we come to be in that place?
I'm not talking about the moments where we 'felt' like we could trust that person. Remember now, our ability to trust was already instilled at an early age. That person might remind us of something that we no longer really think about. This doesn't equal someone who is actually trustworthy. Trust takes time and demonstration. The time is worth it.
There is a difference.
And I'm not talking about the idea of willing to be vulnerable. Vulnerability is a valuable trait, but mostly when we understand where it plays out. What most people confuse this with is risk. The risk requires confidence to get anything started...to initiate a frequency that creates a full-circle resonance that is not concerned with rejection or acceptance.
There is a difference.
I'm also not referring to the act of letting ourselves or another behave in a manner that warrants review and adjustment afterwards.
To think that we are worthy of forgiveness or someone needs to be worthy of ours is an act of mindless ego-centricity. The act of forgiveness is a promise to oneself to do better because we knew better, but did not act that way.
There is a difference.
I propose that we take a new stand for trust.
That we begin by believing that every person is capable of living of with integrity. Of living on purpose and demonstrating without question what it is they stand for. And that they are willing to speak up and provide clarity when it's needed. And where there is none, there is the desire to have it. Not on anyone else's behalf, but for ourselves. Let's trust that each person we meet is doing the best they can with what they have.
And should we find ourselves left empty-handed, let us look into our own hearts to remind us what it is we want and then behave as if we'll have that. Whether that starts with knowing, or it starts with the behaving matters little. And let us see it when it's there.
Let's trust that each of us can just start.
I believe in everyone's wish to be the best person they believe they can be. Even among the bitter, there is the long lost hope that anyone and everyone can be good. May they see that it can be so and that it starts with them. The search to understand is a belief that the good is there.
Even among the lost, there is the hope that we will find ourselves. May they see that they are reflected in everyone around them. May they be the example for uplifting and inspired action. The act of doing right by others is something that we will always feel good about.
Even among the hard hearted was the hope that they would be loved and not forsaken. May they see the lesson and pass on the wisdom, but not the suffering. The ability to create a firm boundary is a sign of someone who knows how to expect excellence because they deliver it...first.
Let's just trust that we can start.