Maaan, even despite your age and probable life experience which I'm am completely unware of, one thing is clear, you need to get your game going, if you still care about getting fulfilling interactions and relationships with females and probably people in general, something like that is just mandatory.
Can imagine that you have seen some "stuff" in your life, but the by way you described this interaction, it's a complete "no-go" path of communicatinon.
Genuine intent is an incredibly important factor in the creation and an ability to maintain a healthy connection with the other person.
Look up for things like the social dynamics in the dating industry as there's enough advise on the market these days.
Don't allow yourself to get socially conditioned and evolve your mindset as much as you can.
Wish you Success !