Social media paints this silly little picture of how relationships "should" look. We also see the same crap in movies and tv. Many people throw away an excellent relationship because it doesn't match the comparisons they made to some media they watched.
Love is not always enough
Love is an amazing feeling. But, unfortunately, love is not always enough. There will be arguments and disagreements. You will have to work hard to make your relationship work. Nothing is guaranteed to work out just because you love someone. Your relationship will not be successful if you are not compatible. It is important to be with someone you can be yourself with and share common interests with. Making a relationship work can be very difficult if you're not on the same page.
Love can be a complicated emotion. Many people assume that's the feeling you get during the honeymoon period but that's the feeling long after. Just because you don't get butterflies anymore doesn't mean there is an issue with your relationship.
Communication is key
Communication is key in any relationship, whether romantic, friendship, or professional. It is the foundation that allows two people to understand each other and build a strong relationship. When communication is lacking, it can be difficult to maintain a relationship ,misunderstandings can occur, and conflict can be difficult to resolve.
Without effective communication, relationships can fizzle out and eventually end. It is important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. This means sharing your thoughts, feelings, and needs without fear of judgment or rejection. It can be difficult to do this, but investing time and effort into developing strong communication skills is worth it. If you are having trouble communicating with your partner, there are a few things you can do to improve the situation.
When communicating, be clear and concise. This means avoiding vague statements and being direct about what you are trying to say.
Listen to your partner and try to understand their perspective. It can be easy to get caught up in your point of view, but it is also important to consider your partner's feelings and needs.
Be willing to compromise. There will be times when you and your partner disagree, but it is important to find common ground and reach a compromise that both of you can be happy with.
Expectations need to be realistic.
Regarding expectations in relationships, it's important to be realistic. If you're expecting your partner to always be available to you, to always be in a good mood, or to always be ready and willing to do things, you're likely setting yourself up for disappointment. No one is perfect, and your partner is bound to have days without feeling their best. That's okay! Being understanding and patient with your partner on those days is important. It's also important to remember that relationships take work. You also need to have a degree of acceptance towards your partner. There will be things you don't like about them. But you learn to accept those qualities.
Arguing is normal
All couples argue. It's inevitable. You're two people with different opinions, values, and beliefs. And that's going to lead to conflict. But don't worry, arguing is a good thing. It means you're both passionate about your relationship and willing to fight for it. What's not normal is the way some couples argue. If you find yourselves constantly yelling and belittling each other, that's not healthy. If you're physically abusive to each other, that's not normal. Arguing is normal, but it should never turn into something more. It's important to remember that you're on the same team. You're both fighting for your relationship.
Time and effort are required
All successful relationships require time and effort to work. This is something that many people seem to forget, or maybe they just don't realize it. There are no "quick fix" solutions when it comes to relationships. You can't just "wave a magic wand" and make all your problems disappear. It takes effort to get to know someone and to build a relationship with them. It's not something that can be done overnight. And even after you've been together for a while, you still need to try to keep things going strong. Relationships are a lot of work, but they're also incredibly rewarding.
So try new hobbies, go on weird dates, and do things similar to how you did when you first met.
Change is inevitable
No relationship is perfect, and that's okay. One thing that is certain in any relationship is that change is inevitable. Whether it's a change in your career, location, or simply a change in your daily routine, it's important to be open to embrace the new and to be open to change; it is also important to communicate with your partner about your needs and boundaries. Discussing your concerns with your partner will help ensure that you're both on the same page and can work together to make the transition as smooth as possible.
It's also important to remember that change is often a good thing. While it can be challenging at first, it can also lead to growth and new experiences. Embrace change and see it as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship.
You Won't Always Be the First Priority
Sometimes, work, the kids, Family, and Friends will have to come first temporarily. This can be hard on a relationship at times, but it's the reality. It's important to approach this with compassion and understanding, knowing that at some point, our partner will need to come second place temporarily for us.
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I think we oversimplify when we discuss relationships as if that word means anything.
If it covers everything from a fun situationship to a 40 year marriage, it's casting too wide a net.
In the early stages you're assessing each other. Do I want a future with this person?
Once you've made a lifelong commitment, (however that looks in your culture) you're now in the game of providing value to each other to vindicate their choice.
If you're both changing to better fit your understanding of your role inside that lifelong commitment, you're also both watching your partner change right after you committed to them. That can freak a lot of people out.
How far do I want to take this person? is a very different question than Where should we go together?