I feel sorry for many of the single people and struggling couples that are out there. I have noticed, for the past 3 decades, that a decline in the quality of dates and relationships have increased substantially. The type of person that it takes to have a solid, loving, lasting relationship hardly exists anymore. Let me explain what I mean.
All of us know that is takes hard work to maintain any relationship. It is only a matter of time before the "newness" of a relationship wears off and friction begins. It is during times like this, that two people of character and maturity can work together to smooth over such friction and keep the relationship energized and moving forward. The problem is finding people today who have character and maturity.
Strong families were always the nucleus to raising youth to becoming functioning adults. The traditional family hardly exists. For one, you are lucky to see two parent families let alone two original (non divorced) parents being together raising children. The majority of families are either divorced, remarried or single and or living together without being married. Second, how many youth are raised with solid moral and ethical compasses? You know, raised to know right from wrong. How many exhibit the simple courtesies like saying thank you, holding a door open, picking up trash that was dropped, being quite during a movie or concert or yielding a seat to an elderly person? It is rare that I witness such courtesies. Now take that same teenager who later turns 25 years old and tell me how they will exhibit character and maturity in a relationship? They won't.
Today we have ANTIFA, purple hair, body piercings, transgenders and who knows what else populating society. I challenge any 24 year old woman to find a 24 to 26 year old male who is not playing video games living in his mom's basement. I also challenge any dating or married couple in their 30's, to have a husband who does not play fantasy football or John Madden's NFL 18 or a wife not watching GLOW or Ellen DeGeneres. Of course I am being sarcastic but I am sure you are getting my point. The caliber of person it takes to make a good dating or married partner are getting far and few between. Our society and culture are not producing the grounded mature adults needed to have a long lasting relationship.
For centuries, wisdom found in spiritual texts provided the glue that kept the society or community strong. That has all but disappeared in today's world. No one gets disciplined anymore. No one is told no anymore. No one looses a ball game anymore, everyone gets a participation trophy. This insane, ludicrous, mindset has destroyed our society. As a consequence, we have one or more generations that are struggling to find wholesome long lasting meaningful relationships. Fortunately for me, I was raised old school. I got ass whippings when I deserved it. I had to work and hold a job as a teenager to pay for my own car, clothing and entertainment. My dad had a family rule to be out of the house by our 18th birthday. Well it worked. I had to grow up and be mature by the age of 18. No playing video games and living in the basement at our house.
To be a solid, mature, boyfriend, man or husband one needs solid morals and ethics. You must be a hard worker and a self motivator. To be a beautiful loving girlfriend, woman or wife you need similar qualities. Both need to work hard at having a successful relationship. Participation trophies do not cut it in the real world. As I said at the beginning of this post, I feel sorry for those single, dating or newly married. The odds are tough that they will have a long lasting happy relationship. It is not impossible, however, to find true happiness in a relationship. It will take effort and searching long and hard to find it. Perhaps if Hollywood got out of the way and real families came back, society would have a better chance.
Hi jetblake,
Thanks for the great content
You are welcome
Hands down the best post I've read in the last few months : it resonates with me big time. I've decided to revert my way of living to a more down to earth, almost off-the-grid path and, to tell you the truth, I wish I had a significant other joining me in my venture.
As you mentioned, it's tough to find a partner sharing these same goals, as the movement is relatively new and lives almost online. Very difficult for me to explain my choices to the common souls, and I must admit, I feel ashamed to expose my way of life socialy.
Keep up the good work, and thanks for sharing your thoughts. Resteemed!
I agree! Resteeming! I hope you have a WONDERFUL day! 😀 😃 😄 😁 😆
Thank you for your kind words and reply. I agree with you 100%. I too am simplifying my life and working to go off the grid. Yes, many people are not awake yet and do not understand people like us. It is hard to find a partner who thinks the same. I am currently single as well. I am ok with it so far. I am really enjoying my journey
Hey man this post is very good, I would just reccommend to cite the source of the picture you used.
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STOPWow this is truly a great post. I completely agree with you that the future looks bleak for the generations to come, and that today, there is no real sense of what it takes to be in a mature relationship. Everything is dumbed down for people, from social media platforms, to shows on TV to the processed food they eat. So of course with all those factors, plus the fact they were not raised with any idea of responsibility or a moral compass to guide them, they are bound to fail, and not just in relationships, but at life.
People don't understand the importance of having guidance in life, and that religion plays a big part. Why? Because you learn about values, morals and boundaries. These are the corner stones of a person's character, and as a result, they are shaped into a wholesome human being, and not a product of their society and its twisted version of being modern or civilized. lol@ "I also challenge any dating or married couple in their 30's, to have a husband who does not play fantasy football or John Madden's NFL 18 or a wife not watching GLOW or Ellen DeGeneres." phew, my husband and I don't fall into that category! We don't even have a TV at home :)
Very well said. Thank you for your reply. I am always nervous to write posts like this wondering what people's reaction might be. Yes, I gave up TV 24 years ago in my early 20's
It's a pleasure. I don't think you should be nervous about writing what you believe in. So many people write about rubbish, but because it's rubbish most people believe in, we are forced to view it as normal and accept it. The truth is, most people don't stand for something, which is why they are falling for anything. If you are awake, and whatever the source of your awakening, share it. Those who are dead won't hear it anyways, those who are awake will appreciate it, and those who want to wake up will take heed. Keep it up!
Thank you. You made excellent points
Though I disagree with the concept of the "real family" you espouse because it rings of religious overtones (which I reject out of principle), the rest seems pretty spot on.
I think a lot of it has to do with two key factors.
The advent of "social media" which is media, yes, but all but eliminates what I would consider anything "social" inasmuch as saying that socialization is face to face...back in the day this is how we did it. We went out and talked to people. Then the phone came to be and we could talk to more people from all over. Now with social media, we can navigate the world and reach a wide audience all at once...but there's no real socialization taking place. These are people sitting in their wife-beaters and boxers (or panties and week old sports bra) typing away while never really leaving the house except to hit the gym so they can take a selfie.
We created an on-demand society where we want it all, and we want it now. When we get what we want, and something else comes along that we don't have, now we want that. This bleeds into relationships too, since now we get bored with what we have after the honeymoon phase passes, and then we want the next one. And the next, and it repeats itself. The on-demand mentality has all but removed any rooting for people, especially in relationships. "Long haul" to today's generation means a few days to maybe a few weeks. Then it's ghosting and off they go to the next person.
Society made this possible. They created their own monster.
Honorable mention: Feminism. Wave 3 feminists have made it all but impossible for any man to even want to risk approaching a female for the possibility that a rape charge will be forthcoming for having the balls to so much as speak to them without invitation.
ha ha ha 'any man to even want to risk approaching a female for the possibility that a rape charge' I can imagine how difficult it must be for men with all this crazy feminist stuff. I am a woman and I hate everything it stands for. It's aggressive and it's turning women into ugly creators. Real women have good sense of self-worth that they don't need a revolution based on insecurities to define them, their abilities or their rights.
Great points. Very well said. Thank you very much for your reply
True, people don't talk face to face anymore.
What is Wave 3 feminism? Sounds interesting?
A really good post with very valid points.
I used to live in Eastern Turkey for a couple of years, and I have seen teenager-girls, who are way more adult than woman in their end 20s in the west.
I have seen boys at the age of not older than 14, who are shepards, defending their sheeps and goats from wolfs with nothing but a stick. While in the west grown men run away from spiders.
But I don't wonder about the things you wrote, after I read the "Protocols of the Elders of Zion". It's their goal to destroy family and religion, and they are sticking very good at their plan. But they forget, that God has a plan too, and He is the Best of the planmakers.
I agree. You are right. Thank you very much for your reply
You are welcome.
Of course many of the problems would almost go away if people started to take the Bible seriously, I recently wrote an article about how atheism is dangerous because t teaches that there are no absoloutes. I think that the current generation is starting to see that the hog warsh that we have been fed does not add up. I stated early on that one of my purposes on steemit as to help build/train a moral army.
Yes a moral army is needed. You and I are on the same page!
Quite well said. We must acknowledge God as believers in these tough times and we must set the example in our lives. I'm a 34 year old, single, never-married male. You can imagine my options for finding a mate, never married, with no children yet, and sane. Then morally upright to boot? Too rare, sadly.
You are right. I just had a conversation with two fleshly brothers in their early 30,s and late 20"s who are in the same dilemma. Finding someone with a moral compass is difficult. I have found that ones that study the bible regularly (though very few) make the greatest potential for having a long term relationship.
Great post. These things are rare.