How To Get To A Serious Relationship
If you are looking for a serious relationship, while chemistry
is important, it is not the purpose of the first date.
Chemistry activates in the brain in the same location as
cocaine. Yes… it acts like a drug. One that can blind you from
seeing a woman’s red flags as well as areas that will
eventually be relationship enders. The first date is about
connection. So how do you create that connection? But taking
into account who you and she truly are. Screw the facade. It’s
time to get real.
Show who you truly are by focusing on 3 things:
Where were you, Where are you, Where are you going?
Translation: your past experiences that lead you to where you
are now- the strong, better, more ready person who you have
evolved to become, and what your goals are – both short and
long term.
Have conversations that are substantive. In order to not seem
like you are reading your bio or asking them interrogative
questions, have conversations in a story telling style. Tell
stories about life markers and experiences that shifted your
perspective and impacted your personality. If you want a
relationship with short term potential, stick with small talk.
But if you are truly ready for something real, you’ve got to
get real. That is how you will truly connect on a date.
Laurel House is an International Dating Coach, Online Dating
Expert, and the author of “Screwing The Rules; The No-Games
Guide to Love.” You may seen hear her advice on Good Morning
America, Today Show, AskMen.com, The Wall Street Journal, or
you may have been one of the 24 million views of her YouTube
videos. She is known as “The Man Whisperer.” Check out her
site laurelhouse.com.