None of this is an excuse for cheating. If you want to cheat than leave.
This is just plain stupid let alone fucked up. Dishonesty is dishonesty. Not every man is a sexually aggressive kinkster.

I for one want a rough, kinky guy.

I've been with a lot of vanilla guys and it's not my thing. But, women who are should seek out men who are they exist I've been with them and they bore me to tears.

But, it's who they are and they are now with vanilla women. And I found the kinky guy I want. No cheating necessary.