I too have been dipped in the cesspool that is divorce/family court. I had a lawyer tell me (when declining to represent me) that he took a shower when he got up to go to work, but that lawyers in family court really needed to shower afterwards.
He was right.
I was one of the 1% of men that get custody. I was awarded spousal support, but never saw a nickel, and never bothered to go after it. My exes parental rights were terminated.
17 years later she came back and took literally, not practically, not virtually, absolutely everything I owned. She got my socks.
But I got to raise my sons, and that's a far better deal. Frankly, all it took was everything I owned to get rid of her forever, and that was a bargain =D
I'm sorry, this is absolutely horrible for the whole family. For us women we usually end up with the kids and no support. No with modern feminism both men and women have to compete for manufactured limited resource pool. Making us fight each other rather than work together and fight this corrupt system that lives off of our suffering.