If, let’s say, the market is down in the business of intimacy; well, it might be time to invest in closeness and friendship (this might even serve as a vaccine against resentment). In the same way, if passion is at satisfactory levels, but there is no true companionship in the relationship. It might be time to just sit, talk and have a laugh together.
I am kind of lost here, i think intimacy is synonymous to closeness and friendship especially with lovers, also companionship as to sit,talk and laughing. I might be wrong though. If you could shed some more light.
My comment
Thank you Abigail for this detailed and insightful write-up. The first paragraph of your write-up touched me where Uncle Jim said, " I am committed to you". From my own point of view the challenges are structural. First, I think the reason why love depreciates in marriages as years go by lies in few sources.
- Commitment and modern society's stress on personal fulfillment.
- Reality existence- conflicts are inherent in a relationship where decisions about finances, sex, childbearing and many other issues are repeatedly made.
- Highly romanticized notions of togetherness, bonding, soulmates and togetherness fade as everyday conflicts happens in marital life.
Until both parties; newly weds or elderly men and women see relationship and marriage as a form of commitment (a project committed in your care) that is the only time, they will stop jumping in and out of marriage. Just like your neighbour who has married like four times.
The common underlying factor is marriage is a school for us all.
Have a great month ahead
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Hello Turpsy 😊
Here we go ...
You know Turpsy, I have numerous times, talked to people (these are mostly women) who are regularly intimate with their spouses. However, due to a tight routine, work schedules etc... they don't really bond in other ways. That is what I mean by that :)
I could not agree more with the notions you presented here, as some of the reasons why both romantic and companionate love tend to decrease over time in a long-term relationship.
I liked No.3 in particular. I have talked to lots of people who think life is like in the Hollywood movies. This is why I think it is important to raise awareness about these sort of topics.
Thank you very much for you amazing feedback and kind wishes.
You too have an amazing moth ahead.
All the best to you and to your family :)