LEARN TO BE ANNOYED - CONSTRUCTIVELY!

Do you remember when you were last annoyed? You probably can. Most people know the feeling, which can be triggered by different situations. Irritation is annoying, but fortunately you can learn to turn it into something positive.

We may be annoyed by those we deal with when we do not get what we want when we are not heard, being counted down or not feeling respected. We may also be annoyed by people we do not know at all. And then we can become dead-irritated to ourselves if we have an experience that there is something we do not manage. How we relate to the irritation is largely about our growing up.

If you irritate yourself often and in many contexts, then there is reason to look inside. Why do you annoy you so much - is it stressed, not getting sleeped, fired or otherwise in crisis? You may notice that you are generally dissatisfied.

Sometimes it may be because you are bad at covering your own needs, but always doing something for others. It does not only mean doing something for others to get the same again, as many think, because it does not work. You have to make sure that your needs are met. Look at your self-esteem and work with it if you feel low self-esteem and it is the basis of your irritation

Get irritated in a constructive way

Fortunately, we can even work with our annoyance - and learn how to turn it into something constructive

Work with your conviction

You can learn to relate differently to your annoyance by reviewing your beliefs. Perhaps you have some beliefs about how to behave where it annoys you that others behave in a way you do not like and who you have learned is wrong in your childhood. Today you are grown and things have changed so maybe you can see that it may be different. How would it be if you allowed yourself to give a little more slip on the demands you make to others and yourself? Could it be that you put too high demands on yourself?

Look at your options

When you become irritated to yourself that you are not able to do something definitely, as others can, look at whether you actually put a limitation on yourself. Ask yourself if something is something you can do about it - for example, if you have to learn something or you can not do anything about it and rather accept it and let go. If known public figures, such as politicians, do not care to behave immoral in your eyes, tell yourself that they do not do it to bother you and you can not do anything about it unless you want to engage in politics.

You can control your annoyance

You yourself are your master of your own attitude to your annoyance, so if it is beyond your ability to change something about what you annoy you, then accept it and let go.

Work with your self-esteem

Learn to set limits and put yourself in respect. Go for your needs.

Practice daring to take a conflict

When you feel irritation and know that it is because others exceed your limits, then log out and dare to take a possible conflict.