It's nice to see how Mr B. got better. When it comes to matter of the soul, it takes a lot of self effort to overcome the barriers your mind has set to yourself.
I agree with the meanining attached to a situation causes the emotional responses, but I also believe to "piling up". When certain situations or stimuli that provoke certain feelings persist and you keep from expressing those negative feelings, then it's unavoidable to burst into a more extreme reaction. It's like you're piling up reasons to feel sad and suddenly you burst into tears because you run out of hot water while in the shower.
And when sadness or anxiety take over I give myself some time to realize what I feel, try to find out what made me feel that way and rationalize and see whether there is one real cause of those feelings that I project to different situations. It's harder when I deal with anger, though. The moments that I know I should not be angry with whatever I cannot control, but I feel like I'm ready to explode. Most times surfing the net and listening to some music helps me calm down.
A great piece of work as always @abigail-dantes! :)
Yes, @ruth-girl :) it is always nice to see when someone overcomes such deep levels of mental distress (you have been the only one to acknowledge Mr. B's plight!).
Agreed. I have been there !So, Ruth ... a personal question. When you say you try to rationalize your feelings through trying to find their causes in order to move on. Do you think you spend more time ruminating on theses feelings than attempting to look forward? I am only asking because we seem to adopt similar approaches to our feelings of sadness. I do have difficulties with moving forward.
Thank you for taking part in this debate :)
Lots of love :*
Unfortunately for me, I spend too much time thinking on the negative situations. Even when I know what made me angry or sad, the event itself keeps coming back. There are some days, when let's say I feel I was wronged by someone, I might calm down for a while, but after an hour I might remember the incident and get angry again (of course less than initially). On those days what trully helps is some sleep. I had read an article (I don't remember where) that sleep works like a "reboot". In my case, it does, even a short nap.
I hope that was of help :)
Yes! It was :)
Thank you.