I know everything in psychology is against it.
Isn't that kind of like saying, "I know what I'm doing is wrong, but I'm going to do it anyway."? Or do you question the validity of the research?
I think we all just need better, non-violent communication tools. There are always more options, even when we feel it's the last straw.
yes thats exacty what it is :/ . I have to rethink things. This is why im terrified and I don't even know if I want kids. You do one wrong thing and your kid is a serial killer and your that parent on the news saying "he was always such a good kid"
Heh. Yeah, it's certainly a scary thing. There are times I look at my son and think, "Really? It's going to be like this?" It's frightening. That said, it's also amazing. It's possible not everyone should be parents. At the same time, I'm hopeful for neural plasticity. I do think we can change. I do think our children can change. As the song goes, "Love is all you need."
Stay encouraged. If you're ever put in that situation, hopefully, like anything else, you'll skill up as needed to make it work.