Heh. Yeah, it's certainly a scary thing. There are times I look at my son and think, "Really? It's going to be like this?" It's frightening. That said, it's also amazing. It's possible not everyone should be parents. At the same time, I'm hopeful for neural plasticity. I do think we can change. I do think our children can change. As the song goes, "Love is all you need."
Stay encouraged. If you're ever put in that situation, hopefully, like anything else, you'll skill up as needed to make it work.